Hello Lost in Life,
I am sorry to read you are getting it from all sides. The advice I give to all with this kind of issue is to draw up boundaries. What this will do is to make it clear that this problem is between you and your husband. Don't confuse this problem by blaming the ex-wives. Limit your communication with the ex-wives to as little as possible. This may be hard for you to do -- harder than you think. Do it with a benign intention. This will allow the real problem to emerge.
If the ex-wives call put your husband on the phone. By putting the burden of communication on your husband , you will take yourself out of the middle. You may feel that it is your responsibility to take the call yourself. But until you let that go, you will be engaged in the problem. Step out of it, and allow a boundary to form between yourself and your husband's ex.
Dealing with unreasonable in-laws and a husband that puts you down is disrespectful to you. Talk with your husband and tell him straight out that you are unhappy and perhaps he will go to a counselor. If not go for your own sake. Be proud of who you are and know the world is a better place because you live and serve within it.
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