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becklett
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   Posted 12/21/2010 6:01 PM (GMT -6)   
i gave up on my girlfriend therefore i have lost all respect her family had for me, i cant go over to her house to help her as he family are there and refuse to let me in, what can i do now?

stkitt
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   Posted 12/21/2010 6:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Good Afternoon,
 
Your first post was this morning asking for help with your girlfriend and now you have given up on her.  Did something trigger you or change ?
 
I am sorry this has happened to both of you.  I hate to think that everyone unfortunate enough to have such a painful, difficult illness must face a life of loneliness because the prevailing advice to any potential partner is "Run! Save yourself!"
 
However, you sound young and if you are not able to commit now then you have chosen what is right for you so let her go and do not worry about what her family thinks.  Do you still respect yourself for being honest and up front on how you feel ?
 
I would suggest you take a break, catch you breath and move on with your life.
 
Kindly,
Kitt

~~Kitt~~
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Post Edited (stkitt) : 12/21/2010 4:38:49 PM (GMT-7)


becklett
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   Posted 12/21/2010 6:29 PM (GMT -6)   
i gave up one her because she was hostpitalised from an overdose, but i couldnt live with out her, i want to do everything to help her, anything at all. she told me to put that i had given up on her, and that her family has lost all respect for me. i just want to be with her and be there for her through everything. i need to know what i can do now?

stkitt
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   Posted 12/21/2010 6:44 PM (GMT -6)   
I would strongly suggest that you seek therapy for yourself as you sound very upset and confused.
 
Can you share with us the comment "she told me to put that i had given up on her, and that her family has lost all respect for me"  Put that where, here in the forum ?
 
Kindly,
 
Kitt
 
 

becklett
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Date Joined Dec 2010
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   Posted 12/21/2010 6:57 PM (GMT -6)   
yea, she told me to say it on here, she wanted to know what i can do to help her, im stuck for ideas.

stkitt
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   Posted 12/22/2010 8:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Posting what someone else tells you to sounds very manipultive  and IMHO  not healthy for you.  Please use this forum for support and advice for yourself. 
 
I feel that only your girlfriend can help herself by seeking help.  You can be  a support person to her however her parents should be helping her so please only post your true feelings and not what someone "tells" you to post. 
 
Kindly,
Kitt
~~Kitt~~
Moderator: Anxiety/Panic, Osteoarthritis, GERD/Heartburn and Heart/Cardiovascular Disease.
www.healingwell.com

"If you can't change the world, change your world"
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