Hello and welcome to HealingWell. You are in the same position as so many at this time of year -
If the Christmas season seems to be depleting your reserves of good will towards your fellow human beings; if you catch yourself thinking uncharitable thoughts about Santa Claus or Kris Kringle; or should you experience the urge - however fleeting - to pull the plug on Rudolph's bright red bulb, it is time to take a deep breath. You can make it through Christmas. You, too, can be a Christmas survivor.
Are you fretting about how nothing in your life can ever compare to the picture-perfect image of blissful, wrinkle-free, smudge-free, dirty-dishes-free Christmas in TV ads and movies and magazines and what-have-you? Stop now! There is no such thing as a perfect anything. Christmas is what you make of it and it is up to you to decide what niche of this vast cultural edifice you want to occupy. And then forget about idealized conceptualizations of Christmas and just live it and enjoy it. This is one of those cases where lowering your expectations is actually a good thing. Go back to the very beginning. It all started with a baby in a manger, not with the latest fad in plush toys.
Make new traditions; go out and be around people. Take in a funny movie, buy yourself a new book, visit a church if you wish and just sit in the peace and quiet. Be kind to yourself as you are a very special person.
"I believe that you control your destiny, that you can be what you want to be. You can also stop and say, No, I won't do it, I won't behave this way anymore. I'm lonely and I need people around me, maybe I have to change my methods of behaving and then you do it." Leo Buscaglia
Try to post in the forum here over the holiday and talk with others who feel the same as you as the members here are simply wise and wonderful.
I wish you peace,
~~Kitt~~Moderator: Anxiety/Panic, Osteoarthritis, GERD/Heartburn and Heart/Cardiovascular Disease. www.healingwell.com"If you can't change the world, change your world"