New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
[ << Previous Thread | Next Thread >> ]

worriedgirl
Veteran Member


Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 1208
   Posted 12/29/2010 12:39 PM (GMT -6)   
so now i find out at least for this week and next i am not transfering. she said its not that it wont happen but i need things to stay this way for now. well i need out of that store. its hell. i cant work under this stress, my ADD needs me in a less stressful store and i cant afford the gas money to drive out there. how can they tell me yes we are giving you the transfer and then take it away from me. uggggggggg cant they think of what i want for a change.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

getting by
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 42612
   Posted 12/29/2010 1:02 PM (GMT -6)   
WG,

Relax for a minute. You said that it wont happen yet. So bide your time there. You are going to be feeling better because of the surgery. Try not to worry about the future, and try not to look at it negatively. Give it a chance and see what happens. If it doesn't go well, we are here to support you. But there is a chance that it could be better than before because you will be feeling better within yourself. You might have more tolerance. Take it with a grain of salt. And patiently wait for the transfer. Just don't let her forget about it. Because she wants you in that store for a reason. You must be valuable to her.

I hope that it gets better. Don't let it ruin your time off. Enjoy the day regardless of what the future holds.

You can do this.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

worriedgirl
Veteran Member


Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 1208
   Posted 12/29/2010 1:13 PM (GMT -6)   
thanks karen. i guess im losing focus again but i needed this. i was so relieved inside and i was feeling happy again and now that feeling is not there anymore.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
Veteran Member


Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 1208
   Posted 12/29/2010 2:10 PM (GMT -6)   
im sorry Karen. i guess im just angry. my comanager says maybe they just dont want to break our team up and that im needed at Roberts 1. The meds may help. i go tomorrow. i just feel as if the rug was pulled out from underneath me. i hate this. i had plans of starting a clean slate. so my co said to do that clean slate at our store and work on it there. i dont know. i made so many mistakes there. Maybe im just down. that feeling has left me, and i was adjusting to so many good things happening at once and now its pulled away. i need this change. when i was told i had it i had this feeling of peace come over me and now its gone. my therapist i wont see until the 11th and i just have to hold out til tomorrow. i hope he gives me the meds, i so need them. i need to focus. my nose hurts from crying. i know stupid reason to cry for i must be a crybaby. you guys are prolly saying she needs to just get over it.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

getting by
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 42612
   Posted 12/29/2010 2:39 PM (GMT -6)   
It isn't such an easy thing to get over. I know how you are feeling. My friend was promised a job and quit her other job, now she doesn't know if she will get the new job. She is devistated. It is a life changing change. By the sound of it, they need you at that store and they want to keep you. Remember, they need you. That is powerful. But I know that you are disappointed and I don't blame you for feeling that way. But you have to make the best of the situation. Maybe if you go in with the thought of it being a new start as the co said, it could become better for you. Even if it doesn't work out, you did get the surgery and you are going to be feeling better from that. I guess you have to make the most of the situation instead of feeling defeated. It kind of sounds like the co is a little jealous of you, do you think that could be possible? It sounds like she likes the control too. Maybe she feels a little threatened and doesn't realize it. Keep that in mind. If she is feeling that way, she is going to push her authority. It sounds like a personal problem on her part. I could be reading it all wrong. Just thought that it might be a possiblity.

Anyhow, I hope that you had a good cry. That often helps us, though I understand that it is hard for you with your surgery. But try to think of the good things. You do have a job. That is good. It might not be the best that you would like, but there is still that possibility. There are people who can't find a job at all. So that is fortunate. They need you there, that gives you power. You will eventually find satisfaction in that. It is job security. Focus on the moment, and the good. It will be better for you when you go back. Enjoy this time off the best you can. You don't want it to be for not. Rest and recooperate. Take care now.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

worriedgirl
Veteran Member


Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 1208
   Posted 12/29/2010 2:47 PM (GMT -6)   
oh karen that makes a lot of sense but i just have to get over the disappointment. and i will i know it will take time. i did have a good cry although my nose hurts some because of it. yes i do have a good job even though i hate the location and she didnt way i wasnt going to get it just that i am needed at my store for a bit longer.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

whitebutterfly
Regular Member


Date Joined Dec 2010
Total Posts : 111
   Posted 12/29/2010 9:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Keep hanging in there worriedgirl. Here for you.

many hugs, arielle.
fly like a butterfly. free and happy. :-D

attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, PTSD, bipolar disorder.

givinguponit24
Regular Member


Date Joined Jan 2011
Total Posts : 138
   Posted 1/24/2011 9:06 PM (GMT -6)   
THANK YOU worriedgirl. I am wonderfully proud for who I am.
Patiently wait for the transfer just like gettingby said.
Maybe the co does feel threatened like gettingby said.
ALLERGIES, ADHD, BIPOLAR TYPE 1, OCD, HYPOCHONDRIAC.
Lamictal-300mg, Trileptal-900mg Seroquel-200mg, Risperdal-5.0mg Zoloft-25mg

Tirzah
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2008
Total Posts : 2317
   Posted 1/24/2011 10:36 PM (GMT -6)   
WG-
I think the idea of starting a clean slate at your current location is a good idea. Try to put the negative memories out of your mind for now. Keep waiting on the transfer, but practice being positive in the meantime. That will mean that when you get to your new location it will seem all the more wonderful.
I know I had a HORRIBLE job like that once. I actually got death threats phoned into the location. Scary & horrible. When I finally got placed in a new location, I couldn't believe how great I felt. I had been practicing patience & a positive attitude in the awful location & the nice people in the new location pointed it out & really appreciated how I was kind, patient, positive & good at conflict resolution. So, in a backward kind of way, the crappy place helped me to grow a bit so I was even better at the nice location. The nice location offered me a promotion & a full-time job.

Here's hoping things work out as well for you!
frances
New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
Forum Information
Currently it is Monday, September 24, 2018 12:54 PM (GMT -6)
There are a total of 3,006,107 posts in 329,303 threads.
View Active Threads


Who's Online
This forum has 161824 registered members. Please welcome our newest member, wilsson4792.
351 Guest(s), 14 Registered Member(s) are currently online.  Details
George_, SoMuchFun, Mind body spirit, bluelyme, mattamx, xpeetzax, AZdiane, kabog121, J Baxter, Alex ArmPain, Minnesota, InTheShop, Little Bear (LB), iPoop