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southwestern
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   Posted 1/1/2011 10:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Looking for advice on how I can help my grown son through a very difficult break up. My son is 29 years old and has just broken up with his live-in girlfriend after a 7 year relationship. The poor guy is devestated. I was able to talk him into coming home for Christmas and he has been in my home for the last 2 weeks but has to return to his home tomorrow to resume his life there. The break up happened 2 weeks ago and since he has been at my house his girlfriend has been removing her belongings from his house. I am very concerned about my son. He is so sad and depressed.  He says he does not want me to baby him and that he is working this out on his own but he is so down, I worry about him going home to his empty house. Has anyone gone through a similar situation?

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   Posted 1/2/2011 5:56 AM (GMT -6)   
It sounds like it is taking time to get over this woman. I think that respecting his feelings right now would be the thing to do. Maybe he could read some books on depression or talk to his doctor. But it sounds like he wants to deal with this on his own. Just being there for him is enough. Let him know that you are always there and let him take the responsibility for his feelings and moods. It is hard to watch somebody you love suffer, but sometimes that is all you can do. Maybe you would want to read a book about his situation and see how best you can help.

I wish you the best.

Hugs, Karen
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southwestern
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   Posted 1/2/2011 2:27 PM (GMT -6)   
My son left for his 7 hour drive home today. It was so sad. He seems so lost and alone. My heart just breaks for him. Wish there was something that I could do to help him.

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   Posted 1/2/2011 2:37 PM (GMT -6)   
I know that it is hard to watch a loved one go through a hard time. But as they say, "time heals all". And in his own time, he will get better. Any abrupt change in a relationship takes time to adjust to. And he was use to having her around and now he probably feels alone. Who knows, they might work this out. You never know what is going to happen. Or he might find somebody new. But as I say, time heals, so in no time at all, he will probably start feeling better. If not, then he may be depressed and medication and counseling can help with that.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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southwestern
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   Posted 1/2/2011 3:03 PM (GMT -6)   
I suggested he get some counseling but he does not seem very open to that idea. I can only hope if he needs it he will seek it out.

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   Posted 1/2/2011 3:30 PM (GMT -6)   
That is all that you can do. It is his situation and I guess he has to deal with it. I hope that you spent some good time together while he was with you. Created many memories. I guess we just hope for the best and make the best out of our lives. That is all we can do. Especially when struggling with depression.

Hugs, Karen
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