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red lightening
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   Posted 1/5/2011 11:30 AM (GMT -6)   
I have difficulty thinking quickly on my feet..especially if i have to
multi-task like I do at work. I forget my glasses and leave them all over the store.
Yesterday they fell out of my pocket and I stepped on them and heard that
expensive, sickening crunch.

Sometimes I forget to clock in at work (ok...often). Yesterday I left
my car running in the street to retrieve the trash cans and went inside the house
and forgot all about my car for 20 minutes while I had a conversation with my son...oops

I have always been spacey but Wow...this is a trip. I don't mind it so much because it kinda'
makes me laugh at myself!

I wonder if it's the meds, or the Bipolar II, or if I was born in the wrong century...I often think I
should have been alive in the Middle Ages because I understand the mechanics of living. I can
not comprehend electricity but candles make sense. I can not understand how water comes out of the
faucet but drawing water from a well with a wooden bucket makes sense, and certainly the magical
workings of an automobile escape me entirely while a horse is comprehendible.

Guess I'll just muddle through the best that I can...feeling overwhelmed most of the time but trying to
stay in the moment.

Sometimes I feel embarrased when I can't 'get' things mentally. Everyone else seems so clear and on the
ball. When I get really tired my communication skills are lowered to words like...big and little and thing.

Geosojda
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   Posted 1/5/2011 11:43 AM (GMT -6)   
to be honest, i bet if you sent people back in time and told them to make electricity 99% of the population couldn't do it. I know i couldn't, we take most of the things we use everyday for granted and have no idea how they actually work. Do you know how a computer works? i sure don't most everyone doesn't and for that matter, how does a simple calcuator work? lol no idea here. I think there is a difference between "getting" it and just "accepting it", most people just accept it but i feel like you want to "get" it maybe understand it.

I am very similar in the fact that when i am tired or just grumpy my communication skills are terriable. Not sure about the memory thing though, although i am pretty absent minded too :)

getting by
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   Posted 1/5/2011 11:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Red Lightning,

I would suggest practicing mindfulness. There are books on it that I would feel would be interesting to you. Living in the NOW is so important. When we aren't paying attention to what we are doing we are prone to have accidents, spilling things and what not. I think mindfulness is very important. You are really living. I use to have to say outloud what I was doing at the time to make sure I was paying attention. I would talk myself through the dishes. I have a tendancy to daydream, and when I am doing that, I am not in the NOW.

I hope that this helps some. And remember practice makes perfect. When you are paying atttention to what you are doing, it is easier to multitask, but I recommend doing one thing at a time. It is a lot easier.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
 
PS  When you are talking to somebody, really listen to what they had to say, think about it in your mind.  Before you answer, think about what you are going to say in your mind.  I am not a quick thinker, I never have been.  But it keeps you out of trouble as in putting your foot in your mouth.  Some people are too quick to answer and say things that they regret later.  So slow thinking isn't such a bad thing.  I have a terrible memory too.  I write a lot of things down on paper so I dont' forget them.  It really does help.
 
 
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Post Edited (getting by) : 1/5/2011 9:49:00 AM (GMT-7)


It's Genetic
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   Posted 1/5/2011 4:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Well, welcome to the age of maturity, ladies,

I live daily with all the things you describe . In my case, it's age, but
when we can laugh at the things we do, it is an indication of maturity.
Count that as a blessing.

So glad you shared this, Red and Getting By and Geosojda.  It's funny, you know. And the truth is funnier than fiction, as they say.

Have a really good evening tonight, ladies.

It's Genetic

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 1/5/2011 2:05:35 PM (GMT-7)


getting by
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   Posted 1/5/2011 4:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you IG,

It is hard sometimes to laugh at ourselves, but I feel that we need to be able to. We need humor in our lives and can't take ourselves too seriously. Or we will go crazy. I love comedies on tv and funny movies because I love to laugh. Though there have been times in my life when I was too depressed to laugh. Even at the funniest things, I would find them irritating. That is one way I can tell I am in a bad mood or getting depressed. Things will annoy me really easy. But yes, we need to be able to laugh at ourselves and enjoy the things around us.

Take care my friend, and you have a good evening too.

Hugs, Karen
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It's Genetic
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   Posted 1/5/2011 5:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes, Getting By,

That's one reason I'm almost afraid to post anything on humor
on the Anxiety Forum until we have more sunshine on a daily basis, because talking about humor when we are anxious does just what you say it does: it makes us irritable.

And then, it's helpful for us if we have things that tell us we are about
to experience a triggered moment. I can tell it in myself if I choose from my closet navy blue or black clothing rather than the beiges or browns or bones which are much better for me. I feel just wonderful in white in the summer. (Forget purple altogether!)

Even the sunshine days of winter are uplifting.

It's Genetic

red lightening
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   Posted 1/6/2011 11:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks all of you G's!!!- (three 'G' names in a row)...I think 'tis just a human condition...this forgetfulness and slow thinking...I'ts definitely a good habit to
stay in the moment though and writing things down helps if I remember
to bring the list!

It's true...I don't laugh much when anxious...I just try to hang on and let go
at the same time...anything to get out of it as quickly as possible; anxiety
is a great teacher of acceptance. Saying the Serenity Prayer helps me too.

Yes, laughing at myself helps me to remember..."Don't take myself so seriously!!!"

Sometimes I do get worried that I'll get fired for my spacy but I do
have other gifts...I've been told by many people that I am 'so sweet.'I do listen to people and respond with empathy and kindness because I genuinely care about people. I also do the very best I can at work. So if something happens I will know that I gave it my very best shot so there is no reason to feel bad.

Also FEAR is only this---False Evidence Appearing Real...if I could only take That is when I'm anxious!!!

Love you All

stkitt
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   Posted 1/6/2011 11:37 AM (GMT -6)   
R.L.
 
You are far from the only one that forgets things - I do to but my hubby, WOW.  I think it sometimes it runs in families as his family has this trait. 
 
I will agree that part of mine is I am a mature lady ( love that phrase)
 
I also laugh at myself as humor is good for the soul. smhair
 
A giggle as the sun is shining here today:
 

An elderly couple had dinner at another couple's house, and after eating, the wives left the table and went into the kitchen.

The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, "Last night we went out to a new restaurant and it was really great. I would recommend it very highly."

The other man said, "What is the name of the restaurant?"

The first man thought and thought and finally said, "What is the name of that flower you give to someone you love? You know... the one that's red and has thorns."

"Do you mean a rose?"

"Yes, that's the one," replied the man. He then turned towards the kitchen and yelled, "Rose, what's the name of that restaurant we went to last night?"

You are not alone red lightening,  if I get stressed I forget things I have always known like my social security number.  (((((((Hugs)))))))))

Kitt


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getting by
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   Posted 1/6/2011 11:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Kitt,

That was too cute. I got a kick out of it. Thanks for sharing with us.

Hugs, Karen
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red lightening
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   Posted 1/6/2011 12:03 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm smiling Kitt!

It's Genetic
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   Posted 1/6/2011 2:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, Red,

I don't think there's any greater security in a job than caring about people and enjoying being with them. I will never forget the first
day I posted on another forum, and someone was talking about feeling depressed because she hadn't talked to anyone for hours.

One of the men posted the following statement. "I don't give a d_xz@
if I don't see anybody today!." Now, which one do you think is going to have a better job recommendation? I think you may count on being secure in any job you want to manage, Red. Good executives enjoy having people like you on their staff. It creates a healthy atmosphere for everyone. You need not worry one minute about being safe in your job.

Just keep your list handy! (I keep two: one on my dresser and a duplicate of it in my pocket book; if one doesn't do it, the other will.)

It's Genetic

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 1/6/2011 12:24:03 PM (GMT-7)


getting by
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   Posted 1/6/2011 2:42 PM (GMT -6)   
That is a good idea with the lists IG. I write lists when I go to the store, I often forget the list. But the last time I did that, I had my cell phone so I was able to call my husband and he read the list to me so I could copy it. But if I would have had two lists, I would of put one in my purse ahead of time. I have to go slow, my mind just isn't that good anymore. But it could be worse. I find when I take my time with things, I usually do okay. Slow and steady is the pace. But slow and sure finishes it off. I hope that you all have a wonderful day today. It is cold here. I just went out to walk the dog, and I had to cut that short. I didn't realize how cold it was today. I hope that tomorrow is better. For now I will enjoy it from inside.

Hugs, Karen
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