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   Posted 1/15/2011 12:33 PM (GMT -6)   
What do you do about a parent who constently talks about you?
And mistreats you in a verbally abusive kinda way?
And they talk about you like your a piece of trash on the street to your closest family members, convincing them that your some bad kid......
I feel very alone in this world. I feel like i have noone at all. It feels like everyone is against me all because of my mother. I think she takes all her pain and anger out on me because she knows she has screwed her life up. So im guessing she is trying to screw mine up. She causes me great pain each and everyday. Just asking her the simplest question makes her yell at me or be hateful to me. To my face everyone is like i love you and im here for you but when they get around my momma and they act like everything they said to me was a big fat lie. I needa know what i needa do. Do i run away? or what? Im 16 and dealing with some crap at home 24/7. Please help!

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   Posted 1/15/2011 1:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression Forum. I am glad that you have joined us.

If this is really bad, you should contact child protective services. Does she just yell at you? Or does she hit you too? How old are you? If it isn't long before you are old enough to leave home, you can work this out. Just don't talk to her as much as you do. Don't give her the oppertunity to talk nasty to you. Stay out of her way. But nobody deserves this kind of treatment.

If I were you, I would get a counselor at school or mental health facility. I would talk to them, or maybe you have an adult friend that you can trust to talk to. Your mother shouldn't treat you this way, but unfortunately we can't choose who our parents are, so...

You did a huge thing by posting your feelings here. Try to focus on moving forward with your life, school and with your friends. Talk to somebody about this. Call child protective services if this is bad. They can answer some questions for you. Like what their difinition of abuse is and if you are suffering it.

I wouldn't run away. I would take steps to deal with this instead. Where would you go? You would probably be alone to face the world with no job or any money or transportation. So don't run away.

Keep posting and let us know what is going on.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 1/16/2011 10:42 AM (GMT -6)   
Is there a relative you could go live with where life would be better for you? My son just left his Dad's house to come live with me at 17 last year and he is making immense strides in his happiness. His Dad was abusive verbally and a drug addict. I have been trying to 'get him' for 10 years but He had to make the decision to leave. When you are ready to stop taking the abuse you will have the courage to get out. No one deserves that. I would try to get out if there is a safe place to go.

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   Posted 1/17/2011 11:20 AM (GMT -6)   
you are talking about running away...honestly tell me is that a viable option? you don't need to be a victim n u can do that by simply focusing on the good. what's the status ?do your close family members believe your mom or do they trust you? because if they don't trust u hell who made them that close that u allow them to mess up ur life??hell,no one not even your mom should be allowed to do that.
if you're feeling alone go out and meet new people today and i mean it.make at least one friend today. look for a sign that tells you if you have gone wrong with ur relationships with people cuz i guess you should have had some friend to get u all thru this.
you don't have to be alone kid i realised that no mtter how unique you are with your problems there is someone around you who has often faced it and even risen up to the challenge. the fact that u have an unhappy background makes it even more important for you to work harder and not give in .EVER. becuz the poblem will never go away if you leave it like it is or do somehing rash
keep posting in the forum to vent n ull feel better. but get some real friends some good role models to really feel awesome.
you happen to life not the other way round.
get your sister on your side if she isn't already.get the true nature of ur mother across to people/close family members who need to know if necessary.
honestly if i were u i'd be mentally prepared to face the thing by now and develop the one thing that always works for me ...a PLAN. i read in a book once maybe some of our emotional responses to situtions are oudated when we respond incorrectly. plan the perfect emotional response the new one you oughta have nd practice it day and night.
ps:if ur mom' still giving you a hard time send a letter to ur parents communicating what you can't in person or to your sis or anyone else who cares. don't be vague but be clear this time. all your posts are obviously written in some time of emotional distress that ocurred recently b4 u posted.
maybe u can give her a taste of her own back biting medicine this way. get people on ur side. get a counselor on ur side if necessary. The fact that you are Alone here is the main problem. you can either choose to make or break ur relationship with your mom. do whatever you feel best because u know ur basic responsibility?its to maintain ur own sanity; no more no less. if she has a problem with ur happiness...that's too bad for her cuz ure not gonna stop loving and breathing happiness but shall get stronger with every test. be WILLING to go through god's tests the necessary PAIN PERIOD that is necessary b4 lasting happiness in this case b4 u turn 18.

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   Posted 1/24/2011 8:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Sounds like you need to seek a counselor like everyone is saying. From what Im hearing it is that you want to find someone else to live with. Is there a grandmother or aunt or uncle that would accept you into their house?
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   Posted 1/28/2011 2:17 PM (GMT -6)   
You're not alone.
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   Posted 1/29/2011 2:24 AM (GMT -6)   
getting out of your house is not the only solution... I feel that your mom really have a great problem in life, try to speak to her and find out what is nagging her. if she still yell at you try to be a nice kinda boy whom she like s you to be.
start doing this and you will surely find a great difference.

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   Posted 1/30/2011 4:13 AM (GMT -6)   
keep safe, with compassion, jamie

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