I'm a male, just turned 22, finishing up my senior year at college. I have a job lined up for after I graduate, and that is really exciting, but it is a highly relational job, and I am afraid I'm going to screw it up. As a result, I have a lot of anxiety on my shoulders, as I prepare to graduate and get out into the "real world."
The bigger problem in my life though is that I can't seem to recover from something that happened 1 1/2 years ago. I had been dating a girl whom I loved passionately. We had been dating for 2 1/2 years and while things weren't always sunshine and smiles, I was really happy with her. We had talked seriously about marriage quite often. We went to separate schools though, so despite the fact that I think she really loved me too, all that time apart and distance kind of made our relationship cool off and hit a few rocky patches.
Anyway, over a particular summer break, I got a summer job that required me to go to another state 20-something hours from home. We tried to keep talking to each other, but I think she took my taking that job as a sign that I wasn't serious about her, and so while I was gone, she cheated on me and found someone else. Less than two months after our break-up, she had slept with someone else. 2 and a half years... done... just like that.
It broke my heart... and ever since then I've been struggling... beating myself up... frustrated. A friend of mine gave me the advice that I just needed to forget about it and move on, so I tried to do so. I ended up dating another girl, but after a couple of months, I realized that it didn't feel right, and we didn't have that "romantic connection." I was single for a while after that, and now I just started dating someone else... she's a wonderful person, and I could see myself with her... but every once in a while I will have one of those moments when I am reminded of my ex. Today I watched a television show that presented something similar to what I experienced with my ex-girlfriend... a girl who cheated on a guy when he was away, felt guilty about it, and as a result, distanced herself from the guy even more. It stung.... and reminded me of the pain that is buried down in my heart.
What do I do? I really like this new girl... it's just for whatever reason, I can't let go of my ex. Advice?? Please?