So you probably have her for another two years or so. Try to be her friend, but be assertive of what you need done and that there will be rules to follow. This isn't going to be easy. I am telling you the truth. But at sixteen, we think we know everything. No offense to teens. It is a really difficult age and a difficult age to deal with. Talk things over with your husband and agree to support eachother. You definately need support with this. If he isn't behind you, it can be miserable. Try most of all to keep an open mind with her and give her the benifit of a doubt in situations.
She could learn to trust you and that would be great. Being that she takes after her mother you can be a step ahead of her on her thinking and the way she looks at things. Try not to blame her, this was learned from her mother. You do have a challenge on your hands. And it is up to you whether you want to deal with this, it could be stressful especially if she has a bad attitude. But it is only a couple of years and if you can make it through, it will bring you and your husband closer together. Though you can choose to not get involved but still be there. Have you discussed your role in this with your husband? How much say you want to have in the matters, and I am sure that there are going to be some.
But like I say, try to keep an open mind with her. Remember her age, she is only sixteen. Young adults aren't very mature at that age. It is not only hard on you, but it must be hard on her too. She may feel her mom has abandoned her, or if she made the decision, she could be taking advantage of what she expects it to be like, total freedom. Which it is not.
I really feel for you. We are here to support you through this. I don't mean to make it sound like the end of the world. It isn't. It is just that it is such a challenge at this point in your life. But it could be gratifying if you can keep the right attitude. How is she doing in school?
Take care, keep posting. Keep your cool too. lol...
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