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Date Joined Jan 2011
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   Posted 1/26/2011 2:09 AM (GMT -6)   
My wife and I have been married for 14 years, it is the 2nd marriage for both of us. We have 4 beautiful children, we own our home, our car, etc. My wife suffers from depression and has been on anti-depressants for several years. In the middle of December a construction contract I was working on ran low on money and i had no income. Christmas was already paid for as were the monthly bills. But suddenly I became a bad guy! I would enter a room and she would walk out. I was lucky to get three sentances out of her all day. to compound the issue her ex-husband, who cheated on her the last five years of their marriage and left her with 7 children to raise, gets a divorce and they begin texting each other. she laughed at his texts and then would look at me and her face would change. things began to get ugly. she kept throwing it in my face that he had always provided for them no matter what happened. well its December, close to christmas and i'm trying to find a job, but we live in a small community. I lose it one night after she tells me I'm lazy, I've worked my intire life and only drew unemployment once in 33 years, i told her that her ex had a 350,000 home he was barely making payments on and a 40,000 truck that has a payment of 900 a month and i thought we were doing good with no debt! I got chewed out for comparing myself to him and some of our friends who all owe lots on their homes and cars. well its the end of jan. now and I must have put in applications everywhere in a hundred mile radius, and she still won't talk to me. I know shes taking her meds but that doesn't seem to help, i'm at my rope's end but I will not abandon my 4 children, i couldn't make it without them. just in limbo hell right now.

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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 1/26/2011 7:09 AM (GMT -6)   
sorry about being out of work. amazing career 33 yrs without being unemployed-i tip my hat of to you and your dedication to your children. maybe therapy will help-worth a try, for you both, just a suggestion. something will turn up 4 you, i can feel it in my bones. hang in there, you are a very good person, hold your head up high, ok!! sorry it took awhile for me to post, because of my illnesses i find it hard to focus, but i got it. take care and keep posting here-we are here for support. with compassion, jamie


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Date Joined Aug 2010
Total Posts : 262
   Posted 1/26/2011 8:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Thats a really tough situation you are in. Honestly i hate to say this but, it doesn't sound to me like what your wife is doing has anything to do with her depression....Sounds to me like you guys need to get into some marriage counseling. Seems like when times are tough you guys should be working together and making it work, rather then placing blame. Its easy for me to say, I know, not being in the situation but it really seems she is being very unfair to you right now.
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