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Date Joined Jan 2011
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   Posted 1/27/2011 10:49 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm a college student in West  Virginia. I have never felt so alone in my life. I am adjusted to the fast-pace bustle of Los Angeles, and going to school in West Virginia has off-set my brain chemicals so much that I now bellyache and weep almost on a weekly basis. I'm on Lamictal for my depression, but this dull, drab, lifeless town is offering me no motivation or happiness. The people here are genuine, yes, but the culture is lacking and, not to sound demeaning, but the whole town feels like a retirement center. I am on a pre-med plan, aspiring to medical school, but living here and feeling so alone and isolated is hindering things. West Virginia is such a beautifull state comprising of nature, greenery, rivers, wildlife, and refreshing, pure air. The problem is, my mind stays on fast track, because it's the only way I can maintain momentum in motivation to get things done like long hours of studying, athletic maintenance, etc. And to top it off, I have NO FRIENDS. NONE, ZERO. I am an outsider that is having a hard time integrating into the community. I often get stared at. I am a normal looking guy. There's nothing unusual about me other than maybe the fact I dress urbanly and do everything fast-paced. I'm white like most everyone else here is, so it's not a matter of race. I'm very congenial with people when I meet them, but it's never anything more than a handshake. No one ever mentions going out for coffee, going to a football game or anything like that. This tells me something is wrong WITH ME. Maybe everyone senses that I'm depressed deep down, prompting their instincts to avoid me as not to affect THEIR mental status. I don't know. I just know that I feel so detached from the rest of the world. If anyone has any free consolation or suggestions, please help me out.

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   Posted 1/27/2011 10:56 PM (GMT -6)   
i feel like an idiot cuz i just got on this site, so i keep commenting cuz i'm bored and also cuz i want someone to talk to. so feel free to ignore my advice. but, i have to just say that i have some similarities, and i think most people just need to feel understood and have comradery.. (spell check?), so here goes.
i was also a college student. i am a good christian girl who always worked my head off and wanted to help. i was going to be an occupational therapist. well, then i got sick. real sick. it started in highschool and i had such bad depression i had to be put on medical leave etc. etc.

i can't give you much advice, but i can tell you that nothing is wrong with you. a lot of people don't know how to be nice when they sense you are depressed, and that hurts so, so so much. there's nothing wrong with me either. im good looking, i'm slender, i'm whatever, nice, etc. but i've been so hurt, it seemed like the more i was friendly the more it didn't work, but you know what? it wasn't me. and it's not you. it's that people, even good and nice people, don't always know what to do, when they should. and a lot of people aren't as nice and out going. and a lot of people are too insecure or thoughtless to make friends, and it hurts. but you have to keep believing that you're good enough.

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   Posted 1/27/2011 11:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for your endearing words. I'll just rely on medication for a while and hopefully someone, even just an aquaintance (sp?) will come along. My future seems so bleak right now, but I don't want to play the victim. I hate complaining. I just need a foundation, which I totally have NONE of at this time.

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   Posted 1/28/2011 7:55 AM (GMT -6)   

Give it a chance, it may just take people a while there to warm up to others. And there are times that people feel intimidated by others and are afraid to warm up. This could be the case here. Either way I think you will make friends soon.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
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