People can do things to upset us, but it is all up to us whether we react to it or not. You can choose to not get angry or upset, but it does take time and practice. I have learned to let a lot of stuff role off of my back, but it took a few years and medications and counseling to get to this point. Life is short, and we don't want to spend it being miserable inside.
I agree with Frances on getting some books or seeing a counselor. I think it would really help you. You might even want to consider anger management classes. It is no fun to be angry. It is a lot more fun to just go with the flow of things. That doesn't mean that you should let people push you around or anything like that, but just speak up for yourself when the time comes. And try not to let emotions get in the way.
I know it probably took a lot to write this post. As nobody wants to admit that they have an anger issue. But I think at one point in time, we have all gone through things like this. So you live and learn. I am glad that you posted. I am sure that this is an issue that you would like to resolve. Seek help with it. Be it reading or counseling. You will be a much happier person in the long run.
Best wishes to you.
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