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   Posted 2/2/2011 3:14 PM (GMT -6)   
I cant wait til Tuesday so i can go to my counselor. i received very disturbing news today. a couple years ago i was robbed, i know i posted about it. well the guy is going to be released from jail on probation on march 4th. hubby wants me now transferred as he says the guy can come back for revenge. i want the transfer but i dont want to seem as if i am running from this guy or else he won. yet i am terrified that he will be coming back. my boss dont think the guy is stupid enough to come back now that there are cameras there but yet he was stupid enough to rob us two times in two weeks. i am scared. i dont know what to feel and i dont want this guy to be the reason i run. i dont want to give him that power. if i transfer does this give him the power over me? does that mean im a coward? what does that say about me?
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   Posted 2/2/2011 3:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Get a restraint order against this man asap. You dont want the extra trauma of him coming back and robbing you/attacking you by trying to forget about it etc. You are not a coward and I think that your husband is right. If it means keeping you all safe then most certainly get a transfer.

You grab that power by getting the immediate support off the police. With that he cannot and I mean CANNOT go anywhere near you. Remember they have him on record now. If he comes anywhere near you, you call the police and report him and have him back in prison again. You have my sincere support all the way. Keep strong hunnie.

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   Posted 2/2/2011 4:36 PM (GMT -6)   
I doubt that he would be allowed to come into that store again since he robbed it. And he is going to be on probation. That helps. I would do whatever you are comfortable with at the time. I don't think that he would want revenge on you. But it really is hard to say. It would be more like he would want revenge on the cops. It is really hard to say what is in his mind. Call the police and talk to them about it. See what they say. A restraining order might be good. What makes your husband think he would want revenge? Does he know the guy? Did you know him?

I don't think that he would be getting power over you if you transfer. As I recall, you planned on it anyway. He may not even remember you other than the girl that was at the place he robbed. Try not to think about it for awhile, and do call the police to see if you need to do anything. You are giving him power by worrying. I am sorry that you got robbed. That must have been pretty scarey. Like I said before, go with where you feel the safest.

Take care,

Try to relax.

Hugs, Karen
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