What else in the World can I do?????

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Date Joined Feb 2011
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   Posted 2/2/2011 3:46 PM (GMT -6)   

For anyone who thinks all on the registry are guilty:


Picture it late 1990's; I was faced with the most difficult decision of my life. I was green to the whole concept of how the 'justice system worked'. With absolutely no hint of suspicion on my mind nor a clout of guilt, I agreed to go downtown to be (and I quote the detective) "questioned as a witness". Again, I had absolutely no reason to worry. Lo and behold, the seemingly innocent questioning turned into the beginning of a nightmare I have been living since then. I thought nothing of it when the detective reviewed a list of Miranda Rights. All I had to do was initial...no mention of me being arrested. Detective was slow to release details but made it very accusatory and I did what I was taught....told the truth!! I did not understand what I was there for, what the charge was, and THOUGHT I could be open & honest with him. Well, confidential statements against me were not revealed and it seemed they were going to nail me come heck or high water! The next thing I knew, I was being picked up by my parents at the jail. Everything happened so fast, I did know what the heck happened. Oh, that difficult decision?? Hah, would I risk more time by proclaiming innocence to a jury that would more than likely be biased, or.....plea guilty with less time? But wait a minute!! Innocent people don't go to prison, do they?? I was wrong again...they most certainly do. I guess $15,000 for a private attorney was enough to prove innocence. Would say, $250,000??? Someone please let me know what my parents needed to spend!!!


This system is so unfairly biased and I am living testimony to that fact. I am willing to speak up and be a voice for all who have been 'guided' to prison, those of us who are innocent.


To this day, I am still living that nightmare...over and over...and for what?? Telling the truth?? The truth is the child was molested year and years before I ever knew the family. I recently encountered the father of the alleged victim, and it was very pleasant. We spent about 45 minutes catching up on time lost (YES, the alleged victim's father and I) and not a harsh word was exchanged. He even asked me, "You know who was responsible for this, right?" That only proved my suspicions right (the truth I had told the Detectives, the truth they did not want to hear). WHY??? I was simply another notch under their belt and a bullet on the prosecutor's resume.


Why do I not have the right to clear my name and prove my innocence after a plea bargain. Didn't seem like a bargain to me.....I still went to prison!! A bargain for who, might I ask??


My last girlfriend of four years was understanding and I left her because she cheated on me. Since then, I have dated three women for about four months each and cannot bare to short-sell myself because of a crime I did not commit. Just want my life back.


I’m in my 30’s and not sure how much more I can take. I have constant migraines (I basically live on Excedrin Migraine). Anxiety ranks high and I worry about being single for the rest of my life.


I have a HUGE trust issue with counselors; they are paid by the state to tell you how sick you. I was forced to participate in a treatment program and listen to horrific accounts of abuse. That was just traumatizing; it still echoes in my head to this day. Certain sounds, smells and some authority drives me over the edge.


I am begging for people on this forum to help guide me as I DO NOT trust counselors!!!

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Date Joined May 2010
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   Posted 2/2/2011 4:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Thoughts :

1.Enlist in the Army and have a purpose.
2. Volunteer at a food kitchen or food bank, see just how good you have it
3. Move to another state, get a fresh start.
4. Go camping for at least 14 straight days (in a tent!)
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   Posted 2/2/2011 4:51 PM (GMT -6)   
I know that you said that you do not trust counselors.  How about psychologists?  I think it would be good if you had somebody for support and to give you some direction in your life.
I saw that you had two identical posts so I deleted the other one.  Since somebody posted on this one and not the other.  We are not allowed to have multiple posts that are the same. 
I am going to give you a couple sites that might help you.
I hope that these sites can help you.  If you were imprisoned for something you didn't do, that is a great injustice, I know.  But you are going to have to put this behind you and get a fresh start.  Dwelling on it only is going to make you bitter.  It does happen.  It is very sad.  But what can you do?  You have to live your life.
Keep trying.
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Date Joined Feb 2011
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   Posted 2/2/2011 8:50 PM (GMT -6)   

I know I don't have it half as bad as some, and I am 100% sympathetic with your condition. My grandma passed away from therapy for colon cancer. Moving isn't an option being I'd have two states to report my whereabouts to. I'd love to join the Service (my initial choice from HS but was not qualified). I never saw myself being a military man. My father is a career Air Force retiree. And I would love a serene retreat, much like my younger years vacationing in MN every summer.

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Date Joined Feb 2011
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   Posted 2/2/2011 9:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Karen,

I'm Kris......I have not tried the links yet but, I want to thank you for a fast rely. I Googled this site and it was a shot in the dark for me.

Yes, I was wrongfully imprisoned. I had some pride while I was incarcerated. I accomplished a two-year apprenticeship program through the state Dept. of Labor for Counsleor's Aide I. Believe it or not, I was a group leader (a well-paid position) who assisted inmates with their release plans and goals. (I was prepared with the basics for myself, what I'm dealing with now is just the accumulation of frustration). I also volunteered to tutor inmates and teach English to dorm-mates who were willing to learn. I really did make the best of my time (3 years at one facility in the Honor Unit). I was then transferred to another facility where my above mentioned nightmare began.

I am doing well as far as work I was laid off in 9/08 as an employment recruiter along with two others because of a lagging economy. I now work as a relief manager for a corporate dining service. I have my financials and social life in order. It's just that having this wrecking ball hanging above my head is keeping me from developing another meaningful relationship. I really like this lady I've know for just over a year now. We meet-up for various outtings and give each other meaningful kisses. She has 2 kids (17 & 7) and I don't want to make her think that I'm a wacko.

I hadtwo other ladies I dated (one I went to school with) and couldn't have them over because I have a less-than-I-would-like apartment in a not-too-good neighborhood. I'm restricted from living a in a few places I'd really like to live. I have a great job and friends (most who know not of my past). Moving would cause community notification and I am known from the work I have done and classmates. I don't want what I have worked hard to get back.....gone. I don't think I could take that right now.

Karen, you're a God-send!! I feel very comfortable, not only for the anonymity but, you and baconeggsyum haven't judged me based on my post. Not many people care whether one is innocent or not. The son of a very good friend of mine was facing rape charges but was able to find a sliver of an alibi and was spared a similar outcome.

Thank you again!!!

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   Posted 2/3/2011 10:05 AM (GMT -6)   
It sounds like you have come a long way. Despite of what you have gone through. I am very happy for that. I hope things continue to improve. What happened to you really sucks. And is actually scarey to think about. It could happen to any of us. And I am sorry for what you have gone through and what you still are going through. I am glad that you are posting here. Keep up the good work and continue to be optimistic about the future. I wish there was a way to clear your name though. I wish for you the best.

Hugs, Karen
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