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Depressed Flower
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   Posted 2/3/2011 11:57 PM (GMT -6)   
My friend and i have been noticing each other for the first time and decided that we really did have feelings for each other. At first it was the best time i've ever had with a guy, but then another girl tried to get his attention. He said she wasn't a problem and so i let it go. The next week or so, one of my other friends (she's like my love adviser and keeps tabs on him for me when i can't be with him a lot) told me he'd said he liked another girl. She's very pretty and i was worried at first, but then remembered she had a relationship at the moment. So, I've tried not to let it get on my nerves, but i realized that he might not love me anymore. What should i do? Love him from the sidelines? tell him i love him? Try to forget him? shakehead

Another thing is that I have MDD and it makes it worse when i see him. His face gives me a jolt and i run to him blindly. Next thing i know he's gone and i feel worthless. Am i being clingy? or selfish? devil

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 2/4/2011 5:23 AM (GMT -6)   
YOU NEED TO TALK 2 HIM. ASK HIM STRAIGHT UP. SORRY YOUR FEELIN' DOWN. THE LAST BIT ONLY YOU CAN ANSWER. SENDING HEALING VIBES YOUR WAY. REMEMBER COMMUNICATION IS KEY. JAMIE

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Depressed Flower
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   Posted 2/4/2011 6:50 AM (GMT -6)   
I understand, but I mean.... i don't know. I guess talking to him is harder than everyone thinks. He's really nice if you catch him at the right time, but he's very reserved. Most of the time thats a good thing because i'm vert shy, but, like in this situation, it causes a great problem...

Depressed Flower

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   Posted 2/4/2011 7:19 AM (GMT -6)   
First of all, it is not good to be having somebody else keep tabs on him. Things can be misunderstood. Secondly, I would talk to him about it, it could be nothing. I would get my feelings out there and see if he feels the same way. Be honest. If he can't be honest with you, then he isn't the right guy. Take care of you first. Make sure that your meds are working for you. Stay happy my friend, life is short. I hope that things work out for you.

But you do have to be open and honest in any relationship. If you can't talk to him, that is another warning sign.

Hugs, Karen
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Depressed Flower
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   Posted 2/4/2011 7:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Yeah, i guess ur right. i'll try to talk to him honestly.
Depressed is the flower,
That waits in vain,
For the sun to come,
On every darkened day.

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 2/4/2011 1:48 PM (GMT -6)   
GOOD MOVE DF. WITH COMPASSION, JAMIE.
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

Depressed Flower
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   Posted 2/4/2011 11:14 PM (GMT -6)   
He dumped me like a rock and said "We can be friends...... i guess you guys were right. but how do i get over him now?
Depressed is the flower,
That waits in vain,
For the sun to come,
On every darkened day.

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 2/5/2011 1:51 AM (GMT -6)   
so sorry. from a blokes perspective, 'sounds as thought that he aint worth it'

with compassion. jamie
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

Depressed Flower
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   Posted 2/5/2011 1:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Yea. I don't know though becasue i REALLY liked him, but it's fine, i guess thanks for the help.
Depressed is the flower,
That waits in vain,
For the sun to come,
On every darkened day.

getting by
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   Posted 2/5/2011 3:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Take life one day at a time. I know that you really liked this guy, but it doesn't sound like he shares the same sentiment. I would try to go on without him and do the best that you can for yourself. Get involved with something that you really like and keep moving forward.

Hugs, Karen
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Depressed Flower
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   Posted 2/5/2011 9:50 PM (GMT -6)   
here's something that might affect your advice. I see him EVERY day after school. We are in the same sport together...
Depressed is the flower,
That waits in vain,
For the sun to come,
On every darkened day.

getting by
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   Posted 2/6/2011 9:18 AM (GMT -6)   
I know it is hard when you see him a lot. But you need to just be friends if he doens't love you the way that you love him. There are so many other guys. Eventually you will start looking. It takes time. Take it one day at a time.

Hugs, Karen
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