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LostGirl13
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Date Joined Feb 2011
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   Posted 2/5/2011 7:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi. I've never done something like this before. My mom uses forums all the time and she suggested that I try it out and try to find a little support group. My life totally sucks right now, I'm going through a lot and I don't really know what to do about it, or anything for that matter. I'm at the point where I've told the story of what's going on so many times I don't even want to talk about it anymore. I guess this is just an introductory post to say Hi and test the waters. We'll see where we go from there...so..Hi :)

getting by
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   Posted 2/5/2011 9:09 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi LostGirl13,

Welcome to the depression forum. Your mom gave you good advice. All of us here suffer depression and can give you the best advice we can and also give you support.

You said that you have told your story many times, I take it that you have tried counseling? That really helps. It is good to have the support and the objective ear.

Know that this is a wonderful group of members and we all care about eachother.

Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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theHTreturns...
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   Posted 2/6/2011 6:48 PM (GMT -6)   
we care lg13. you have been brave in posting, i hope you continue to do so. this is a wonderful supportive community. so hi !!!!!!!!! and welcome, jamie.

SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

Geosojda
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   Posted 2/7/2011 6:51 AM (GMT -6)   
hi and welcome! You say you have told the story so many times, have you told it to a professional? Someone who can not just listen to the story but pick up on your emotions about it? Have you tried counseling? GB is right it really is a great thing.
When the only tool you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

with your past and your future precisely divided, Am I at that moment?. . I haven't decided.

LostGirl13
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   Posted 2/7/2011 7:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I have not tried counseling...I can't afford it...but I really want to..I have for a long, long time and sometimes I wonder if I had years ago some of the things I'm going through now could have been avoided. This is my story..and bare with me because I ramble and sometimes don't make sense. I'm 23, and when I was 18 I moved from Wisconsin to Texas to be with a guy. (we're now common law marries, were together for almost 6 years.. we're now back in Wisconsin and we split up in December) When I was 19 we got pregnant. Things had been kind of rough but I just blew it off as a bump in the road. Well when we found out I was pregnant my husband didn't like the idea at all. At first he didn't even want me to keep the baby and for the first 7-8 months of my pregnancy he wouldn't even talk about it. He pretty much ignored me. We spent the whole time in separate rooms, him in the living room playing video games, me laying in bed watching tv because sitting hurt. Well I joined an online chatroom site to kill boredom. After a while I started talking to guys. I would tell them I was single because they would give me more attention. I would start fake relationships and carry on for the attention it brought me. My husband would find out, we would fight, I would stop and tell him why I did it and things would be better for a while. Then the cycle would repeat. I would feel ignored, I'd search for attention....you get the point. Well I recently took things too far. I was talking to a guy who lived close by, I started a fake relationship......then went to see him. I did things I never intended to do..I cheated. Well my husband found out and of course he left me, and I hate myself for what i've done. I never, ever intended to take anything beyond the internet. I love my husband more than anything in the world. Part of me thinks its because I was attention starved, other parts think that its because I never actually went through a dating process and I wanted to know what it was like to be with someone else. I don't know, I honestly don't. All I can think about now is how I've royally messed up my entire life....and I think that maybe if I had gone through counseling I could have gotten these feelings out, stopped the lies, and learned how to talk to my husband about how I was feeling and find a way to reconnect with him when I was feeling ignored instead of looking elsewhere for it. But as I've been hearing quite often for the last 2 months...Hindsight is 20/20

getting by
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   Posted 2/7/2011 8:56 PM (GMT -6)   
What you have to learn is to not need attention.  And counseling teaches us to love ourselves and be satisfied with life the way that it is instead of always needing something more.  You also have to accept what you did and accept the consequences.  It is hard, and it takes time.  First off you have to forgive yourself.  We all makes mistakes, just some are more life altering than others.
 
Here are a couple of sites for you to try.  They are for depression and might help you.
 
 
I hope that this helps you.  Keep your chin up.  Things will work out for the best.
 
Hugs, Karen
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