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Date Joined Feb 2011
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   Posted 2/7/2011 11:33 PM (GMT -6)   
why do i have no patience for people and other personalities that dont go along with mine? Why do i love do do things alone but am still lonely at the same time? i am happier by myself but when im my by myself, all i think of is finding that right girl to make into a wife and have kids with. I dont have sex with strangers because i feel like i have to hold off untill i find someone to date, but the world around me is telling me to go be young, im in my prime. im 6'3'' tall, blonde, physically fit, good looking, but i just cant bring myself to do what the rest of the world does because i see the discontent and the heartache that people go through, just to conform to the "live for today" way of thinking. And last of all, why do i have so much compassion, why do i dream about having a son, why do i dream of love, and wake up with a completely overwhealming feeling of content because thru the dream, my whole being is fullfilled because in my dream, i found the one that makes me feel so darn fullfilled? My dreams have been freaking me out. Ive been with two girls in my life.

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Date Joined Feb 2011
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   Posted 2/7/2011 11:44 PM (GMT -6)   
the biggest thing is, im a big guy, with a lot of tattoos, and have been in bands, moved around, been married and divorced at an early age, but im 26 now, and i see myself getting into this bitter old man routine which is bothering me. i feel like my way of life is going to stick around forever if i dont get some good things happening. as selfish as it sounds. im actually noty selfish at all. just venting

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   Posted 2/8/2011 7:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Go with your gut feelings. Wait for the right girl. She may be just around the corner. It is good to be contented with yourself. I am. I chose to be alone a lot in my life. I mean by myself. I am contented with that. I am married, but we do our own things. I have friends, I don't see them often, but enough.

You are so young still. Don't rush anything. Take life one day at a time. Do live for the day. That doesn't mean going out and doing something stupid, that just means don't worry about the future.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 2/8/2011 12:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there and welcome to HealingWell.  I am going to be blunt and put this right out there, is your fear of committment what is behind all this ? Being married and divorced may be holding you back and you do not realize it.
Fear and trust are two emotions that are often tied together like the two ends of a bow. They are the emotions that follow the rush of feelings that people usually have at the beginning of a relationship. Why is that? What happens to make one person or the other begin to fear making a real commitment to a relationship? What are they afraid of?

Perhaps that answer is not really as complicated as it seems. Fear of being hurt in some way is a commonly shared emotion, as are fear of embarrassment and fear of loss. When a person makes a commitment it is safe to say that they risk experiencing all of those unpleasant possibilities.

Try to assess your situation realistically and then ask yourself another question. What if you never take a chance on love because of your fears, won’t you end up alone anyway? If you take that chance you may end up having to “pick yourself up and dust yourself off and start all over again.” Or you just might end up in a very loving, trusting relationship.
Start putting yourself out there and go slow.  Don't set such high expectations but give other people a chance to just be themselves.
My first husband and I just were not meant to be.............but then I met the love of my life, a biker dude who has been a wonderful husband and father to my 3 children and one of our own.  We will celebrate our 40 year anniversary in June.  We have learned to live with each other's idiosyncraseis and accept each other for who we are. We still ride that motorcycle. turn
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