First of all, welcome to the forum! Have you asked your wife if she would try marriage counseling? It isn't stupid to feel down if you are having relationship and intimacy issues. Try talking to your counselor, they may give you an idea about
bringing the subject up with your wife that will encourage her to be more
open with you.
Thoughts and prayers are with you,
Jon, Co-moderator for Crohn's Disease, Depression, & Celiac Disease forums
"The man who insists upon seeing with perfect clearness before he decides, never decides. Accept life, and you must accept regret." -- Henri-Frédéric Amiel (1821-81), Swiss philosopher, poet