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Date Joined Feb 2011
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   Posted 2/22/2011 7:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, im new to this. i am 19 years old and have been with my boyfriend almost 2 years and he is the best boyfriend in the world to me, he buys me anything i want, takes me to trips around the world and treats me really well,  but the thing is i think i have trust issues, everytime he wants to hang out with friends or go out socialising i feel he is hiding things from me, i know he would never cheat on me but i cant help these thoughts im having i would just love to be a normal person and trust him and treat him the same way he treats me. i have been attending a counsellor for 3 weeks now and i dont think it is working. i am pretending to myself and my boyfriend that its working but im only kidding myself. i am keeping everything bottled up inside and i know this isnt good which is why i want to get some of this anxiety out.  he is the best thing that has happened me and he has told me if i keep acting this way it will be over, i am so obsessive and want to be with hm 24/7 just so i know what he is doing, he also has alot of girl friends that i feel paranoid about and know i shouldnt worry but i do.  in august last year when we came back from holiday i was late my period and then it came so much heavier than anytime before, we looked this up on the internet and was getting the feeling it was a chemical pregnancy which is a misscarriage, i then went to my doctor and she told me that i was correct and gave the an injection to flush the rest of the feotus out of me after this i feel i became worse, then in october the same thing happened to me only it was more serious it was an autoptic pregnancy and i had to go through a 15 minute surgury, but both times i went through the prosess i was alone and i feel with my boyfriends support it may have been a little easier.  at the start of the relationship was great we used to talk about the future and marriage and stuff but whenever i bring it uo now he laughs and i feel that hel never marry me, i know im young but i dont mean right away i mean in years down the line it would just be nice to talk about it at least. everything is just loading up on me and i feel i have noone to talk to which is why i have joined a forum hoping for answers and support, many thanks xx

getting by
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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 2/22/2011 8:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi MQ12,

I am sorry about the miscarriage and such. That must of been hard for you especially to be by yourself. Try to let go some. The harder you grip, the harder it is. Have faith in your relaitonship and take it one day at a time. That is if you don't want to push him away. He sounds like he is getting irritated with this and you will lose him if he is. Get on with your own things. Start some hobbies or something to take your mind off of him so much. Live for you.

That is the best advice I can give if you want to keep this man.

I hope that things work out for you. You are young. You have a lot of time ahead of you and things could change. That is life.

Hugs, Karen
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Date Joined Aug 2006
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   Posted 2/22/2011 11:27 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm sorry about your miscarriages too, this can make your depression worse, and
if you can't talk about this with your current councellor then maybe you need a new
one that'll be more your fit, sometimes it takes a few tries before finding the right person
to help, it took me 4 tries before I found someone I can open up to more.
What Karen/getting by said about starting a hobby.
well wishes healing hugz and keep us posted on how things are going...
* So many dx's I could write a book* "It would be nice if we could use the edit button in real life"...
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