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Amz
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Date Joined Oct 2010
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   Posted 2/24/2011 4:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi all,

I just need to let some stuff out, before it gets on top of me.

As u can see from my signiture, im depressed, have fibromyalgia and plenty of other problems.

No matter how bad my pain or emotions are like i still have to get up and do the household chores, we have a cat and her litter tray obviosly needs to be done, well thats my job etc.

my husband has hurt his back, so he's pretty much in agony (like i am everyday), but i have to "get on with it" no matter how i feel, why is it so different for men?!!!

Im sorry for this but i really needed to get things off my chest, its really getting to me now. im very stubborn and when i set my mind to doing something, then i want to do it, but why can't things be done before i get round to it???

my husband gets up 3 hours before me, so he can see what needs to be done, but he doesnt do it, he just sits on his laptop all morning.

im not saying he's putting his back pain on, cuz he's not, but why is it when im in so much pain, i still have to suck it in and grit my teeth?!!!!

thanks for letting me get things off my chest

Amz
I am a 23yo woman from the UK, my husband is my main carer.
Diagnosed with- FIBROMYALGIA, BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER, DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, CHRONIC FATIGUE SYNDROME, RESTLESS LEG SYNDROME, SERO NEGATIVE ARTHRITIS, INSOMNIA, LOW ENERGY, PANIC ATTACKS, OCD, IBS, MIGRAINES, FIBROCYSTIC BREAST DISEASE, LOW VITAMIN D.

Meds Citalopram 60mg, Tramadol 50mg x3, Mebeverine 135mg x3

stkitt
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   Posted 2/24/2011 4:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Amz
 
Nice vent :-) !  I think whenever our depression kicks in to high gear it is difficult to see straight and we want so badly to refocus our anger on anyone or anything to relieve the pressure.
 
If this problem is really bothering you - would you be able and sit down for a nice chat with your hubby re how you might help each other.
 
(((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))
 
Kindly,
Kitt
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Post Edited (stkitt) : 2/24/2011 3:47:11 PM (GMT-7)


getting by
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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 2/24/2011 5:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Amz,

I know with fibro it is hard, as you want to be able to do more than you actually can.

I agree with Kitt. Sit down and talk to your husband. Let him know that you can only do so much and that you are only going to do what you can and you may need his help. And don't over do it. Just do enough to keep you busy throughout the day. Did you say if you worked out? Or do you stay home?

If you stay home (as I do), just do enough to keep yourself busy throughout the day. If you have a big job, rest up for it and try to delegate your time so that you aren't over doing it. Break it up so to speak. Don't get angry with your hubby, just talk to him and let him know how you are feeling. I hope that things work out for you.

Most certainly come here to vent. There is no better place.

Hugs, Karen
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia


fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 2/25/2011 7:21 AM (GMT -6)   
have chronic pain too. i break things up. definate chat with hubby is warranted. with compassion, jamie.
 
ps, keep strong.
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

Hopefulforlife
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Date Joined Nov 2010
Total Posts : 14
   Posted 2/26/2011 1:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Amz...
 
I agree with everyone, the chat is important....
 
But I am so glad you posted this vent, because I have this vent in my head all the time! I always have to take care of the kids, dinner, chores, etc, whether I am in pain or not...when he's in pain, I know that it's legit, but why can't he grin and bear it like I have too?? Why does the world stop for him, but turns extra fast for me??
 
I, shld follow the advice of the replies, and actually have the talk, but I am a sucky communicator, just as he is, (great match, huh? lol) so I don't like confrontations, and he always tends to get defensive whenever I do bring something to his attention....
 
Well, I wish you luck, and I hope all gets well. Thank you for letting me know I am not alone in these feelings, as I hope you now know you are not either :-)

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 2/26/2011 2:41 AM (GMT -6)   
we are here for you hopeful. with compassion, jamie
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.
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