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worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/25/2011 11:29 AM (GMT -6)   
yesterday my friend called me hysterical and i had to try to get ahold of her fiance(he works for wendys and was at a class and she couldnt think of a way to get ahold of him) and so i figured it out and i had him meet us at the hospital. we sat 7 hours in the er and to find she had a miscarriage. she was so upset and i did my best to calm her, in fact i think i did, her fiance had no idea what to do to calm her but i somehow managed to say the right things. i took her at 2 am to get her prescriptions where i cried too. this was gonna be my neice or nephew and i was gonna throw her a baby shower. im feeling so sad for her and i honestly dont know the right things to say but im going on instinct. is there anything that i can do to help her? is there anything that i should not say? i wish there was a magic pill to make this all better. this injustice of losing a baby at 16 weeks is hard. she had no idea if it was a boy or a girl but i think she will name it Ryan or Jordan since they can be either boy or girl names.
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Chartreux
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   Posted 2/25/2011 11:44 AM (GMT -6)   
I think you've done a wonderful job thus far, there's really not much to say, but be there for her...
So very sorry for this loss and will have your family in my prayers...much sympathies.
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   Posted 2/25/2011 12:17 PM (GMT -6)   
WG,


((((((((HUGS)))))))))

I think you did the best thing that you could. And I think it was the right thing. You were there when she needed you. I am glad that she has you for support. This is very sad. Sending prayers from this way also. Just be you, you are a kind and compassionate person and a good friend. I am so sorry for the loss.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/25/2011 12:25 PM (GMT -6)   
i hope so. the hospital told her to keep her appointment at the obgyn but when she called them they told her now they cant see her since she lost the baby. i find that very rude and it had her crying. i am so tempted to go to that obgyn and cuss them out for upsetting her. when she called the nurse at the er she went to the nurse even said that was very rude. im trying hard to check my anger in over that but they had her crying and its not right.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

stkitt
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   Posted 2/25/2011 12:54 PM (GMT -6)   
WG,  You have done a wonderful thing in being there for your friend.
 
I had one miscarriage and I can not tell you enough how much it meant to me when someone would just say "I'm sorry." Those two words gave me more comfort than any statistic ever did! People mean so well but often they try to say to much when two little words say it all.

Just be there for you friend.  Tell her "your sorry".
 
Kindly,
Kitt
 

 
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   Posted 2/25/2011 6:41 PM (GMT -6)   
with much healing compassion. jamie
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