15 years old boy suffer depression

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qjenxu
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   Posted 3/4/2011 4:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello

I am new here. Recently my son has been diagnose depression. He is going to start counseling soon. I don't how how bad his condition is until the doctor made assessment. I heard St. Johns wort is a good natural supplement for depression. Is anyone here had experience on St. Johns wort? is there any other natural foods and medicine that could help? I am deeply worried and feel very guilty that I didn't discover his condition earlier enough that made him suffer from this illness. any suggestion and recommendation will be very helpful for us. Thanks so much!

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   Posted 3/4/2011 5:20 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't have any experience with St. John's wort, but I would discuss it with your son's doctor first (to avoid any interactions.)

As far as feeling guilty about not seeing your son's depression earlier, I think we will always feel that way somewhat when it comes to our children. When you are so close to someone it is sometimes hard to see the subtle changes over time.

Thoughts and prayers are with you and your son,
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   Posted 3/4/2011 7:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the depression forum. Jon is so on with this. It is like children growing. When you are with them everyday, you don't notice the subtle changes. I am glad that you are getting him help. Please don't beat yourself up over this. You did nothing wrong. You are a good parent.  Try not to doubt yourself.  You are doing all the right things.

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qjenxu
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   Posted 3/4/2011 9:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you John and Karen, for your reply! HealingWell had been a very helpful place to get advise. I was active on prostate cancer forum a year and half ago for my husband. Now I am here, for my son.

As I start leaning this illness, I am going to have more question. Another question now I have is when you choose talk therapy, do you looking for psychologist or professional counselor? I guess psychologist usually has PHD and professional counselor has Master degree. I don't know which one I should choose. I don't know what difference between two.

Thanks for you help!

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   Posted 3/4/2011 9:46 PM (GMT -6)   
To me, psychotherapy wasn't much different from therapy. And I think it depends if you are a good match too. I have had one or two that I didn't like and quit going. But I kept trying with others.

I think sometimes psychotherapy might go a little deeper into your past and stuff. But I have explored my past with a therapist before too.

I think either one would be fine. But if it is important to you, I would call around and get some information. You could talk to a doctor or call some offices yourself and see what is the difference. I guess the psychologist would be more educated. I know, I am not much help. But I find myself drifting as I took my sleepy meds.

I hope that this helped some.

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qjenxu
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   Posted 3/5/2011 11:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Karen, for your advise and help. I will see couple more and have my son choose which one he likes to see.

I have another question, I know that depression patient when they are down, they don't feel like do things. As this is very typical for my son. He was a good students before and still want to be good at academic. However, many times, he just feel like do nothing. therefore, he is struggling with homework and test/exam. the result of test/exam are impact his mood. I am talk to him a lot trying to resolve any issue or confusing that he has that I could help and encourage him get on his live include study. Is anyone have any suggestion on that is the best way to help my son more willing to get back on his activities/sports/study?

Thanks so much!

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   Posted 3/5/2011 11:55 AM (GMT -6)   
This is all part of the depression. As he gets better his interests will pick back up. I think that the most importatnt thing right now is to start with counseling, the rest should fall into place. Do keep encouraging him though. I am sure that it is helping. But don't push too hard, he may tend to bottle things up more. Best wishes with this situation.

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qjenxu
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   Posted 3/5/2011 1:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Karen! I needed to hear that.

many thank!

Hug! Jennifer

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   Posted 3/6/2011 9:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello,

Might I just say that I am so happy to hear he is in counseling. I knew from early on what "depression" was and what sadness felt like, but I didn't put myself into counseling until I was 18. I wish someone would've helped me sooner, God knows I needed it...

I'm not sure about herbal remedies, but anti-depressants were a tremendous help to me. I know a lot of people are scared of them, but if the doctor thinks its a good idea, have him try it out. And if he does and doesn't feel better, please dont be discouraged; it took my 3 different meds before I found one that worked for me.

I just want to personally thnk you for being a concerned mother. When my mother found out i was in therapy she freaked out and never wanted to hear about it. She didn't want to accept the fact that her kid was in counseling. But you are doing the right thing, and I'm sure you son will receive great help.

qjenxu
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   Posted 3/7/2011 12:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Taryn50894 for your kind words and encouragement. This gives me some comfort that my son is in a right path. Please don't hesitated to tell me if you have any suggestion or comments.

I am sorry to hear you didn't get in counseling earlier enough. I know you needed at that time. I still think even now, not many people understand therapy is a very healthy way to deal with emotional crisis. they just don't know about it. I am sorry for your mom didn't show her support at your counseling treatment. It is hard to be a mom, as many times as a parents didn't know how to give their child what they needed. I have my bitterness on the things I did wrong, the things I messed up regarding my son. I wish the time machine turn back 10 years that I can have another chance to be a better mom.

Hug, at least, we are all here, help each other, get better together!
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