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geet
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   Posted 3/5/2011 3:50 PM (GMT -6)   
hello,
i had arranged marriage in India 4 years ago.i came to canada 3-1/2 years ago.my all problem is that my mother-in-law is controlling and wants her way all the time.My husband is a drug addict and spoiled brat.he doesn't work and wants to spend money all the time. i have been watching them doing this from last four years and really depress about my situation.My husband is nice but he always takes his families side as his mom usually pay for his drug habits. i work part time in a grocery store.he doesn't work.and get money from government for his disability. so if i make enough money he doesn't get enough money to support his drug habit.he never gives me any money and i have to buy his smokes,his gas,and all other expense. i am really depress about my situation as

getting by
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   Posted 3/5/2011 4:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

Welcome to the depression forum. I have to let you know that we aren't allowed to discuss illegal drugs, so I wont go there. But you need to get out of the situation. It is going nowhere. You are getting taken advantage of and this isn't right. I would talk to a counselor, they can help you. They can help you get out of this situation and start a new life. I am sorry for what you are going through.

Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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theHTreturns...
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   Posted 3/6/2011 2:23 AM (GMT -6)   
maybe your local dept of human servives, or eqivulant can help. with compassion, jamie. agree that you need out of this situation.
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

Precious Gem
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   Posted 3/6/2011 9:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Above advice sounds like your only option. You can not change other people but if you are unhappy (depressed) you can change how you live. Take some steps to move yourself closer each and everyday to living a life more agreeable with you.

Best of luck to you and remember nothing is impossible, just keep working at it. And above all, remember to take good care of yourself.

Gem

geet
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   Posted 3/6/2011 8:02 PM (GMT -6)   
i know what are u all trying to tell me!! i am really stressed out with all this all the time and losing my personality and me in between this all.I really want to move out of this relationship but i really can't leave my husband as he does love me.I finished my schooling and looking for better job. i really want to move out and start the life over with him?? is that a ggod step to take?? right now i dont make enough money tha i can support my self and him too.What shud i do?

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   Posted 3/6/2011 8:28 PM (GMT -6)   
take care of no 1. first. with compassion, jamie
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

Post Edited (jamiee) : 3/6/2011 9:44:40 PM (GMT-7)


getting by
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   Posted 3/6/2011 9:39 PM (GMT -6)   
If you continue to support your husband with money, you are most likely enabling him to do what he shouldn't. You should get out of there, on your own. Get a counselor and get on with your life for you.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

geet
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   Posted 3/8/2011 8:33 PM (GMT -6)   
i am really stressed out and dont know what to do first!
i really want help with the ways i can really leave him! in my religion everyone thinks its bad to leave ur husband and my family is against me leaving!! i really need to chat with someone online right now!! please

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 3/8/2011 10:12 PM (GMT -6)   
you need to write an action plan. you must priotitise your situation. with compassion, jamie
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

hybridmoments
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   Posted 3/9/2011 12:53 AM (GMT -6)   
If your husband truly is a drug addict, he should get help for that..his habits are causiing alot of turmoil and could be changing his behavior in a really bad way..if you love each other and want it to work, maybe look into some marriage counseling...you both have to want it to work and he has to realize the way he's treating you is not ok!! Good luck <33

getting by
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   Posted 3/9/2011 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   
HM is right. You can't keep living with this. Your husband needs help and you need help dealing with it. Start counseling for yourself and go from there.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia


fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies
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