Opinions on lack of socializing

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Volonau
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   Posted 3/9/2011 12:55 AM (GMT -6)   
I've suffered from depression since I was 15. My wife of seventeen years on the other hand is quite healthy in that reguard. Both my wife and I have very little need to socialize outside our home.
I've read many books, articles, and talked to professionals thru out the years that all say the same thing. People need to socialize to live healthy lives.
If this hype is true will my wife and I pass on unfulfilled?

-Misunderstood-
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   Posted 3/9/2011 2:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Volonau, I think that it may just be how you are looking at the situation. Socialization can occur in different ways, at different times, for different types of people. The fact that you and you wife have very little need to socialize outside your home shows me pretty clearly that whatever need for socialization that the two of you have, you are content to some extent with what you have with each other. That is perfectly fine, and in fact quite healthy, but if you find that at times you do wish you had some other activities outside the home there are a variety of options. Firstly I would try to find something that you and you wife both truly enjoy. There is a certain amount of satisfaction a person can have in doing something their spouse enjoys, but it is that much better when it is the same for both parties. If you and your wife have a drink every now and then, and also enjoy similar music, maybe plan a night with a really nice live band at a place you are both comfortable with. Basically, I'd think that IF you did decide that you do want outside socialization, then do so, but if you both are fulfilled with what you have at the moment...so be it. If you want a mix ;) go for that too. Find fun with her, because as you have said yourself, you seem pretty happy with just her already ;). I hope this helps

Volonau
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   Posted 3/9/2011 2:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for your reply Misunderstood.

It seems our friends and family have more need to socialize then we do. We are always hearing," well why wouldn't you want to go, how come you guys never show up, when are you two ever gonna a take a vacation some where."
My wife doesn't question our choices or lifestyle where as I feel somewhat pressured into outings and trying to get involved in different social outlets.

getting by
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   Posted 3/9/2011 7:20 AM (GMT -6)   
My husband and I are the same way. We don't socialize much. I am contented with my life at home. And my husband and dogs. When we do go out, it might be to get breakfast at the local restaurant. Or going to see his son and his family. I do love the grandkids. So I think as long as you are contented, you are doing just fine. Many people envy that. They are not as happy at home. Go with it and enjoy. Ask her if she would like to go out if you are worried about it. But I am sure she is happy at home.

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