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Date Joined Mar 2011
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   Posted 3/9/2011 11:50 AM (GMT -6)   
I am a 57 year old happily married male.
My wife thinks I am bi-polar because we had an argument the other night and I got mad, not physical, ever.
She can not remember the last time we had a fight.
Now she wants to leave if I don;t get assessed.
Any comments or thought would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you all very much.

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Date Joined Aug 2010
Total Posts : 262
   Posted 3/9/2011 12:09 PM (GMT -6)   
i guess we could use some more information about what you were feeling or what happened. I don't think that its unusual for someone to get mad after a fight with a spouse, maybe you had a bad day or just didn't really want to talk about whatever you were fighting about. I hardly think that its a sign that you may be bi-polar. how mad did you get? And whats with the spending sprees option? yes, yes i do go on spending sprees sometimes :)
When the only tool you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

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It's Genetic
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Date Joined Mar 2010
Total Posts : 1540
   Posted 3/9/2011 1:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, Rick,

There are some interesting things in your post:

1. You are a happily married man (not symptomatic of bipolar illness.)

2. Your wife can't remember when you and she had an argument
in the past. (not symptomatic of bipolar illness.)

3. You've never gotten physical in an argument (not symptomatic, etc.)

There are at least two forms of bipolar illness: type I, which can
develop into a psychosis if not treated by professionals in the medical
field, and medications are required. Bipolar, Type II, which is a much milder form of the illness and can occur in women in their latter years.
Both forms of the illness can be inherited and it can be an active illness even in the early teen years and continue throughout life.

I would like for you to go to a site called "Doctor and read for yourself how caffeine, tea, coffee all make a huge difference in feeling tone, irritation, and anxiety.

I really do not recognize bipolar illness in the information you have
given; but if you and your wife want reassurance from a psychiatrist,
I wouldn't hesitate to get all the information you need. If your wife
is jumping to the conclusion that you are or might be bipolar based
on this one experience, my inclination is that she needs to be more
knowledgeable about the illness and even about her own instability,
perhaps. Most wives can take family differences in their stride and
move on with happy living. Every form of living with a husband or
wife is going to have moments of disagreements along the way.

You seem to be a very nice person to me who might want to check with a specialist just to reassure your wife and to get her to understand what bipolar illness is. She might also learn more about the condition
by just going online to a site such as bipolar

Take care.

It's Genetic

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 3/9/2011 6:50:43 PM (GMT-7)

New Member

Date Joined Mar 2011
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   Posted 3/9/2011 3:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you all for your very quick and kind responses.
I am contacting my doctor for a referral to a specialist to get diagnosed.

I am shocked and appalled that my wife and grown sons would label me bi-polar.
Perhaps they have another agenda and merely want me out of their lives.

My wife and I made wonderful love Saturday afternoon after we had just come home from the gym together......laughing and joking around. (Sorry if the former is too much information).
I suggested our sons come for dinner.................FAMILY TIME.

Then one son gets into it with another, I try to intervene as one was about to storm out of the house in a show snow and then my wife jumps all over me.

Sure...........I got mad. Called her some names I shouldn't have. I banged a cupboard door.
Then went to the basement and calmed down and stayed there the rest of the night.

Again, I thank you all for your very informative insights.
God bless.

Toronto Canada

Elite Member

Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 20186
   Posted 3/9/2011 7:19 PM (GMT -6)   
i have bi-polar affective disorder t1. nothing in your posts is indicative of a bi-polar dx. however alike IG, if unsure of your moods have a check up with your doctor. jamie.


New Member

Date Joined Mar 2011
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   Posted 3/9/2011 7:36 PM (GMT -6)   
That was a very quick response.
Thanks so much.
Am feeling very depressed that my family thinks I am BP.
Go figure.
Hope you are well.
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