i just dont know why i feel like this.

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bchrist
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   Posted 3/14/2011 5:25 PM (GMT -6)   
I know this might not be a severe situation, but I just need help because I guess I'm scared to talk to anyone I know. All my life I grew up with not too good of a relationship with my family. Ive always had anger problems and these kind of feelings but Its getting worse every minute. My girlfriend of about 6 months is all I live for. All I do is think about her. I run to her when I feel like this or if I need support in something. Right now I'm on vacation and so is she and I feel like complete crap. All I'm thinking of is her and what she's doing. I trust her with my life so why do I feel like there's a chance she could cheat on me or talk to other guys? Especially when she doesn't text back for an hour or so. We have a very close relationship. We hang out almost every day and when we are apart, especially for long periods, we get separation anxiety and we act all different. Two nights ago she came back from a cheerleading trip of 4 days and when she was at that I was missiong her more than ever. When she came back we had a lot of sex and rarely spent time with each other and the next morning I left. Before I left we both cried, regretting not spending quality time with one another. Now were apart again and I feel like my heart is getting stabbed because I want to be with her so bad. The only thing is I want her to think of me as much as I do think of her. I just don't know why I have this feeling. Am I just way to attached to her? I just really need help guys because I don't want to feel like this for the rest of my vacation.

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Geosojda
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   Posted 3/15/2011 7:13 AM (GMT -6)   
It seems like you are totally emotionally invested with her. All of your egg are in one basket, especially since you don't have a great relationship with your family, and you are fearing losing what you are invested in. Part of being in a relationship is trust, you have to trust that she wouldn't do anything to hurt you, you can't monitor her all the time and if it takes her a while to test you back, its nothing to get worked up over. I feel like this relationship for you may become an obsession and that is just going to hurt both of you. If you can try to find someone around you that you trust and can talk with about whats going on. It'll be good to get it out. I wish i could give you some better advice other than that but its a good first step.
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bchrist
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   Posted 3/15/2011 8:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you. Means a lot that you replied

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   Posted 3/15/2011 9:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there bchrist,

I just wanted to welcome you to the forum. You will find that there are many wonderful compassionate people here.

Do keep posting, and know that we all care.

Hugs, Karen
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getting by
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   Posted 3/15/2011 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Bchrist,

I agree with the above post. You are too dependant on this girl. You need some self esteem. Maybe try counseling. Something to get you more dependant on yourself and get your self esteem going.

I am sure that you will get more replies as the week goes on. It is kind of slow here this week. I think because the weather is nicer and people are outside. I think there was only two or three new posts on the board this morning.

Best wishes to you. I hope that you get this worked out. And as posted above, trust is a huge issue. You have to have faith and trust. If your trust ends up in broken, it wasn't meant to be anyway. And you learn from that.

Hugs, Karen
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bchrist
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   Posted 3/15/2011 6:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you. We have a very loving relationship but all these trips apart I feel like she doesn't have as strong feelings for me as she used to. I just found out she starts her period tomorrow, could something as small as that to make her feelings change for a week or so, even if she is just acting like she doesn't like me when she really does. Sorry this Is confusing. I just want to know what I should do as far as what I should say or what I shouldn't say. Thank you guys this is the help ive been looking for for quite a while. Please reply if you can.

getting by
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   Posted 3/16/2011 6:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Yes, she could of had pms. It really effects women.

I see you really need to work on your own securities. Please do seek counseling. You wouldn't be so insecure if you did. It would really help.

Hugs, Karen
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