Empty nest depression

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Barbz
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   Posted 4/2/2011 8:39 AM (GMT -6)   
I dont even know where to begin other then my 17 year old daughter moved out and does not have a job or anything. So I am worried about her and then i just feel so alone and sad. I started taking paxil last week I just hope it starts helping soon. My hubby is trying to get me to do stuff with him but i just dont feel like doing anything other then working. Does anyone have any advise? Thanks

Precious Gem
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   Posted 4/2/2011 9:41 AM (GMT -6)   
I went through this too. It is a powerful transition in a womans life. Your hubby is absolutely correct. You and he need to re-connect and find things you enjoy doing together. I would also suggest that you cultivate interest in something you enjoy doing, just for you. Really the only thing that helped me was throwing myself into something, for me it was quilting and growing cooking herbs (parsley, basil, dill, etc) Due to the age of your child, I am sure you are concerned for her wellbeing, maybe more so than if she were a little older and better equipped to take care of herself. Teenage years can be trying. What I learned is that you cannot shield them from harms way forever. You have to let them make mistakes and hope the good seeds you planted in their heads when they were younger, will get them through.

The feelings you are having are very normal.

Take a deep breath, it will be OK. This is your time, now what do you want to do with it? I think this can be a very satisfying time of life, it all depends on how you approach it and what you do with the opportunities at hand.

Good vibes being sent your way.

Gem

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   Posted 4/2/2011 9:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Barbz,

I think the change is so hard. You have had her with you for 17 years, and it kind of becomes a shock to the system when they leave. But don't be surprised if she comes back at some point. Some do and some don't. Is she going to college? How is she going to make it with no money, or is she looking for a job?

I hope that you can put your mind at ease soon, knowing that she is okay. A few prayers might be in order. Keep posting and let us know how it is going.

We are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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