Dealing with my best friend

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mookalove
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   Posted 4/2/2011 2:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Okay so I have this best friend and we've known each other for about 8 months now since I moved to my new school. When I first met her, I had no idea she would become my most favorite best friend. We didn't talk that much at first, but during December our friendship grew. One night I asked her this question: "Are we enemies, friends or best friends?" It took her a while to answer because she's a shy person, but then she said "best friend" and that made me smile. We kept messaging each other- we talked all the time.When we talked, we'd talk about anything from clothes to boys. But lately, I feel like I'm losing her. She doesn't talk to me as much as she used to and when I talk to her she gives me such short answers. Last night, I sent her a message and saw her go online for 10 minutes but she never answered my message. I asked her if there was something wrong and she said no, but I don't believe her. I'm trying not to talk to her too much because I don't want to bug her. I still feel really depressed though. It just hurts me when we don't talk and I feel like she has no interest in me anymore. Please help me. I don't know what to do.

Confusion86
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   Posted 4/2/2011 2:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Give her space. I've been this girl and it probably isn't you that is the problem or she would have told you to leave her alone or lashed out at you. Whatever is getting to her she is going to need some time and space to sort her head out. My advice would be to text her or message her online. Tell her that you miss her as a friend and spending time with her, and you feel like she isnt herself at the moment, like she is very quiet and you hope she is ok. Tell her you will be there for her if she needs to talk or get out and do something, and you hope when she is ready she will talk to you. If she is still adamant nothing is wrong then you just have to trust she is telling you the truth and leave her come to you. It may be hard, but you need to trust her instincts.

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   Posted 4/2/2011 4:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Confusion86,

I thought that you had started an introductory thread and I posted on it. But now it is gone, so I figure you had your reasons to delete it. But anyway, I wanted to welcome you to the forum. If you feel like starting another thread, feel free to do so. We all care about you here and would like to help you.

Take care, keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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getting by
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   Posted 4/2/2011 4:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Mookalove,

I agree with Confusion, let her know how you feel, and let her know that you are going to give her some space.

I really hope that things work out for the two of you. I remember having a best friend when I was your age. It was a special relationship. But remember, things do change. People go seperate ways in life, but that doesn't mean you are not still good friends. It happened to me. It happens to everybody.

A friendship is a special time. Enjoy your life.

Hugs, Karen
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Confusion86
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   Posted 4/2/2011 4:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Karen,

I felt I needed to think about what I wanted to say. I find it hard to put my problems in to words. A lot easier to answer peoples problems than deal with your own :)

Thanks for the welcome

getting by
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   Posted 4/2/2011 4:50 PM (GMT -6)   
I know, I am the same way. In fact talking about other's problems takes my mind off of my own. Feel free to talk when you are ready. I guess I should say write instead of talk. lol...

Know that we all are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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