If you feel comfortable being there for her at the drop of a hat, so be it. It sounds like she is taking advantage of you, but it could be the alcohol. Maybe if she quits drinking, she will be different and see things for what they are. You can only help her so much and it is going to bring you down too. As it is, you are depressed.
Is she still in rehab, or is she out now? I remember you said that you gave her a place to stay. So I wasn't sure if she was in rehab or out now.
You can love her, but don't enable her to drink and continue this self destructive thing that she is doing. If she wants to continue taking abuse from her ex and children, that is her problem, not yours. Unless you make it so. I guess it is actually up to you if you want to continue with this. It is really your call. To me, well, it is just too much drama and self destructive actions. I would walk away from it, but i am not the one in love with her, you are. But I think it is too much stress and that it is bringing you down too.
Keep posting, I am sure others will chime in with some advice for you. As always, try counseling too, it really helps.
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