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jbyrd
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   Posted 4/8/2011 1:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Ok this is the first time ive ever done this but...here goes....
 
So ive had insecurities about my family since i was about 12, mostly about my dad cause thats when our relationship really started to go downhill for some reason.. Ive talked to other ppl including my family about it but it just feels like nobody really understands and i need to hear someone else that ive never met before that might really understand. I just really need someone to talk to..

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 4/8/2011 1:17 AM (GMT -6)   
what is on your mind? we are here for you. happy to lend an ear, can you tell us a bit of what is happening. this is a very helpful forum with caring members. know that we are here for ya. with compassion, jamie. ps, keep strong. pps, welcome 2 the forum!!!
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jbyrd
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   Posted 4/8/2011 1:32 AM (GMT -6)   
okay well I guess all the best cowboys have daddy issues but this is just building and building and its not getting better. Well my guess is this; my dad was in the army and his dad was a marine. My dad has always said his pop gave him a hard time with the whole military upbringing. So since i was about 12 or 13 he started really attacking me emotionally.. hes never hit me or anythin like that but really just put me down. and my whole family on his and my stepmoms side do the same. They are really condicending to me...wrong spelling but anywho... ive never really taken up for myself because they all gang up on me... they think im an idiot.. and my sister was never there for me when she needed to be.. she actually joins in with them most of the time....she has no remorse for what she says or does. Now my girlfriend is trying to shove me into marriage quckly because we have a baby on the way and that plus all of my family is trying to pressur me into it as well. im lost....usually i have solutions ive always had solutions to every problem ive faced but i dont this time.... and it scares the hell out of me... i dont know what to do or if there is anything i can do..

jbyrd
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Date Joined Apr 2011
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   Posted 4/8/2011 1:33 AM (GMT -6)   
so this is my desparate cry for help.

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 4/8/2011 1:41 AM (GMT -6)   
can you get into some counselling? i am in therapy and it really helps. sounds like you need some emotional support with a baby on the way. i would check out your local maternal centre. yes there is support out there for new dads!!
you have been brave in posting jbyrd.......keep being brave and seek some much needed assistance. others will chime in soon with further info/advice.

hang in there. with compassion, jamie.
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

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getting by
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   Posted 4/8/2011 6:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

You sound young to be dealing with these pressures, but with a baby on the way, you need to grow up fast. You are going to be a daddy. I hope that you love this girl and will be happily married, but you are both young. Take this one day at a time. It will work out for you. Yes counseling would be the way to go. You have some big decisions to make. You will be starting a new life, so your family wont be so much a part of it. Though they are related to the baby so they are going to play a roll in your life. I highly suggest counseling at this point. You need a direction to go.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen
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Geosojda
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   Posted 4/8/2011 8:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Soudns like you have a lot on your plate right now. This is ONLY MY OPINION. All i can really say is really think hard on getting married just because you have a baby on the way. There is no reason that you two can't live together or take care of the baby together without being married. IF you do decide to get married make sure its for the right reasons, do you really love her? DO you want to spend the rest of your life with her? If yes then great, but if you have reservations give it some time, play the relationship out and hopefully it will take you to marrige. A baby really does change everything, we just had our first child 6 weeks ago, its tough and it puts your relationship and resolve to the test.

I agree with above get into some therapy, i did and it is great, really helps sort your feeling/life out. Keep us posted
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