I would like to first of all welcome you to the forum. You have come to a good place for support and company. I am so sorry for your situation and in my opinion, he isn't treating you fairly. Not only do you get upset when they are late like that, but you worry too. And just a phone call would help. But some people are selfish and don't think of the other person. Plus being in another country is hard in itself. Especially when you don't know anybody. I really am sorry for your situation.
I know that he doesn't want to go into counseling, but what about you? You would get support and validation for yourself. Plus it would help you to make important decisions. Just incase you are happy in the marriage. You can move forward and hopefully be able to support yourself. Are there therapists over there that you think you could relate to? I am going to post some sites that are free of charge that might help you. Their traditions over there may not be what I would say was always fair to women. Though I am sure that things have changed in the past years.
Keep posting, I know we are in very different time zones, but we get people from all over the world, so there is always a good chance you will hear from somebody soon. We also have chat rooms if you get the chance.
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