I need someplace to vent, I can't take this anymore. I can't escape and I just want to leave. Can someone please listen to my story and give me some word of advice?
Here's my story, it's not the worst child abuse case (I'm 13 by the way), but it's the strangest one.
It all started when we moved to our new house last month, my dad has a mental illness and has history with (I don't know if this will help find out what's wrong with him!). The day we moved in he started acting strange, it was nothing at first, but I sensed something was up. Fast forward to four weeks, this is when chaos ensues. My dad is making up these men and is saying that my mom is a "sex addict" according to what he calls her, who has multiple affairs with people by the names of: Joe Handel III, John Beemann, Saaed, Abrahiem Nammour, Mike Danzi, and four other men. My dad has claimed to have seen naked pictures of my mom and them, but refuses to show them, saying the media shall see (yes, i'm being dead serious), he said that she has been a multiple affair person after he left for work and left our house. He refuses to believe anyone in this family besides himself, he also said my mom is a necrophiliac one night at the dinner table when it was just me, him and my mom, and has weird theories and hooks his kids into his conversations. He then looks up your info and makes fun of you. My dad does set people up. Now back to the story, now that you know what has been happening. I have Asperger's syndrome as well! Now let's note my dad's strange behaviors over the years. He is my stepdad for eight years, I have one sister who is from my biological father's side as well. My mom and my stepdad (who we will refer to his real name Danny), has had one kid. For eight years he has tormented us. He is a horrible liar and a bit of a womanizer. He used to and still calls me a "defect", a "retard", a "failure", and a "psycho", he now has come into my room yelling "psycho, psycho, psycho!", it got worse, he would act like a bully in school now and start being aggressive, by fueling fights and telling my sisters "look at your violent mentally ill brother", he uses many things against us, since he has no inch of common sense, he uses my disorder against me and various other things to my family. He has tried to email our closest friends, asking to put me in a mental institution for being a "psycho" for trying to stop him from badgering my mom and he has tried to tell our friend Diane that our mother is a s*ut. He makes arguments and then stops, then the next day he'll argue again! He once again threatened to kill me when I assaulted him with a mirror because of how he acts, he also said he wants to put me in a coma.
I would also like to note the words he has said to my mom (He is Lebanese so he also uses his own words):
He has called her a "s*ut", "wh*re", "b**ch", "dirty Jew", "****ing dirt, "sharmuta" and various other nasty insults. He has called my sister names as well, saying she will group up to be a homeless sex addict. He has threatened to kill me once, when I broke an argument, he has also installed keyloggers and said I tried to find his email passwords, so my mom can date other men. He also suspiciously watches us and says very weird things, he has taken all my mom's money and our college funds on online gambling (such as poker). Today, I snapped and I threw a metal bowl at him, I cut him with it (accidentally, but I'm still happy I got lucky) and he threatened to put me in an institution for showing signs of "aggressiveness", yet he starts everything by calling me names that he think fits my disorder. He acts like someone with no common sense (as I said before), by using selective memory (saying that it's a trick my mom has given him), he even tries to make us hate our mom as well and makes "sides", this abuse has gone on for eight years and it's finally reached its tolls as he has mentally blacked out and lost all of his common sense. I am feeling very depressed, I have lost my self-esteem, and I have tried to myself because of this. My parents are hopeless, as he doesn't let me take therapy sessions and has told my school not to allow counseling "as I can lie about
things to manipulate a situation", which is another term he used, I am constantly harassed, as well as my mom and sister. My sister Isabel, who is three-years old. Is being taught how to growl, hit siblings, throw things, threaten and break. She says that she doesn't love us sometimes and it breaks my heart. I love my family, and I wish I didn't have to endure and suffer this anymore. I was previously bullied at my other school, and finally my mom let us out. He has threatened to call NJ DYFS on us as he says my mom is unstable to raise us, she has never cheated and she has been a great wife and parent. She has put up with enough of this and so has my sisters. I don't want their lives to be ruined like mine and my mom's have been. He has threatened to take us away, and has called fake numbers who are supposedly men that have come to the house, I stay up till 4 A.M. and I can say I have seen no men! I want to leave, is there anyway I can stop this or should I die. I don't know what to do, and all he says is let him die. I want help, is this abuse. I just need help, somebody give me some resources or places. Thank you, I'm not lying he does this everyday and he goes through these episodes that aren't schizophrenic since he remembers and knows everything he says, he also takes pride in cursing and has tried to make us lose our connections with people, saying they are useless as we should not see people. he is on the brink of madness, please help!
He has put me into institutions for protecting my mom. He spits on her and pushes her to make us get frightened, he also makes up a pedophile by the name of Greg. He threatens to empty her bottle of heart medicine, which she needs to breathe and live properly.
He also makes you feel like he smiles when you get angered by him, it hurts to think about
it! Please help, I am not lying, this is what I face daily!
- Ryan, 13, Male, A victim of child abuse.
P.S. Thanks for taking the consideration to read this and help out, I no longer feel like I have to listen to music or play a video game to feel alive and happy, once again thank you!
Post Edited (thosewhofight97) : 4/17/2011 12:38:30 PM (GMT-6)