I have been reading these forums and have found so many situations similar to my own. I think if I share my experience in writing it may help.
My wife and I have been married for 6 years and together for 8. We have had a wonderful life together (at least I thought we did). We do not have children but we have 3 dogs and own a house together. I have been married before and have older children who do not live with us.
My wife left two weeks ago to live with her mother about 30 minutes away. She said she is unhappy and doesn't think she is in love with my anymore. She needs time to clear her head and decide if she wants to stay married to me.
This is our second separation in the last 18 months. The first time I left by her request for a week. After a week, she said she missed me and we got back together and all seemed great for a while. Slowly the affection and closeness disappeared and she would joke that she feels like my roommate and not my wife.
I probably took her for granted at times but no more than any married couple does. She has been on antidepressants for a few years now. She has had anger issues at work and sometimes at home too. She gets annoyed at people really easily. Especially me. She told me how much I annoy her all the time.
This morning she told me she needs two more weeks to figure things out. When I asked her the significance of two weeks, she said this:
"It’s just a time period I chose. It means nothing. Just time.
I need the time to be without pizza or flower deliveries. I need to not have to get 100 text messages or phone calls. I really need this Billy. I am begging you to give me my time. I am not doing anything wrong but just clearing my head. I am going to go to a counselor and I am going to the doc for new or different medicine. I am taking all the right steps for myself but I need you to back off some."
She has admitted she feels depressed and confused. Maybe the medications she is on are not correct. The other problem is she gets her antidepressants from her gynecologist. She has never gone to a counselor or psycologist for antidepressants.
She seems very hypersenstive to anything I say. I miss her and want her back. I am willing to stand by her through better or worse but I fear she is going to give up.