Boyfriend Troubles

DO you leave a person that needs help, but is hurting you in the process
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Hell yes, everyone is responsible for their own actions - 0.0%
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No stick by them it will get better - 0.0%
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Love them from a distance if it meant to be it will be - 0.0%
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Have faith and stick by the person - 50.0%
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warn them of what they are doing if it stops stick in there if not run! - 16.7%
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Leave while you still can. - 33.3%

 
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preggo26
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Date Joined Apr 2011
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   Posted 4/25/2011 10:05 PM (GMT -6)   
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs. He has a serious jealousy issue and insecurity issue. I have been putting up with the accusations and physical as well as verbal abuse, but it finally blew out of hand. He is now in jail and awaiting his court date he doesnt treat me like he should but I love and care for him alot! What should I do?

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 4/26/2011 3:36 AM (GMT -6)   
he may have these issues, but it does not give him the right to be physical and or verbal with you. to me that is a deal breaker. i hope he learns something right about treating people better whilst in there. i understand that you love him, but you do not love what has happened. nobody deserves this.......nobody. my suggestion is that he goes into anger management counselling BEFORE anything happens. and you preggo, might i strongly suggest that some counselling for you will be extremely benefical. am so sorry. from a man, 38 i am disgusted by what he has done. jamie.
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preggo26
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Date Joined Apr 2011
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   Posted 4/27/2011 10:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Jamie. I need to know from others how to deal with this, right now I feel the exact same as you that he does need anger managment and no it isnt right the way he treats me I paticularly hate it and are completely disgusted as well. For some odd reason I always find miyself feeling sorry for him. This time around all i know is that he is going to have to prove himself worthy to be with me. I dont think that he is right now and I know that what he is saying is to clearly get me to help him from the outside. Im so confused right now and desperately need counseling. Ive gotten so use to his abuse that I dont even see the small blow-ups as a problem. God please help me, I think I have clearly lost my darn mind. But again thanks for your advice Jamie.

getting by
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   Posted 4/27/2011 10:12 AM (GMT -6)   
Do not stay with somebody who is physically harming you. Or verbally. Nobody deserves to be treated this way. He may love you, but until he gets his issues undercontrol, I would say move out. Men are physically stronger than women. He could severly hurt you physically and that is not acceptable. Move out now. Shile he is in jail. You deserve much better.

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