Losing someone you have loved so dearly and knowing ahead of time they may be dying makes you feel helpless and you also wonder how you can live without your wonderful Nan.
No one is ever taught in school how to prepare for death or how to deal with a loved one who may be dying. What do I say? What do I do to help?
My first thing that I would say is I LOVE YOU. I know you are truly close to the your Nan, this might go without saying. But it can never be said too often. We all need to be loved and to know that we are loved. When facing the unknown, it is always reassuring to know that we are walking with someone who loves us, tell your Nan as often as you can.
Another thing people with a terminal illness fear is that no one will remember you. Spend some time remembering the good things you've done together, the things she has done for you, the impact she has had on your life. Give her assurances that you recognize these things and will be forever grateful to her for them.
And let the tears come, don't be afraid to let your Nan see your tears. When my sister died I would hug her and cry as she comforted me and told me I would be OK. It was her last gift to me.
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~~Kitt~~Moderator: Anxiety/Panic, Osteoarthritis, GERD/Heartburn and Heart/Cardiovascular Disease. www.healingwell.com"If you can't change the world, change your world"