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chamari
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   Posted 4/28/2011 12:00 PM (GMT -6)   
what do i do when life is so hard. i go to everyone and no one seems to give me the right answer

right now i feel like this is the worse state I've ever been my whole entire life. I just don't know what to do to get better. I'm so depress because my ex is making my life so much harder, even when i don't want to see him anymore, we always seem to bump to each other and then problems start. i want to forget about it, i want to be friends but it doesn't even last the next day before trouble started again. I'm so confused i just want to this to be solved but i feel like i never will get any where unless i never see him again.

if i never saw him again I'm pretty sure I'll do better, its so hard when he promised he would marry me, but its fine he is a big liar. i feel like its his fault I'm stuck here.
its so hard, i feel like a smoker who tries to quit smoking but because their so addicted to it they cant. this is too hard everyday I'm always sad or mad or angry. i cant deal with this anymore, this is too hard

getting by
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   Posted 4/28/2011 1:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Chamari,

I guess that I can't agree that your boyfriend caused your depression. Depression can be situational, if it is, you have to learn to deal with the situation. As you say he keeps bothering you. Or you keep running into him. You have to learn not to let that bother you. I don't understand why you say it is his fault that you are stuck here. Do you mean physically or emotionally?

Try not to let his presence get to you. Try to keep on with life with or without him. Work on getting yourself better. That is the best advice that I can give you. Take care of you.

Hugs, Karen
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theHTreturns...
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   Posted 4/29/2011 1:03 AM (GMT -6)   
COUNSELLING IS GOOD ALSO. JAMIE.
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

getting by
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   Posted 4/29/2011 5:04 AM (GMT -6)   
Counseling is wonderful, thank you Jamie. I forgot to mention it.

Hugs, Karen
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theHTreturns...
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   Posted 4/30/2011 3:39 AM (GMT -6)   
COOL :-)
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

tryn2gtbtr
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   Posted 5/1/2011 1:27 AM (GMT -6)   
idea  Hi Chamari, I am a newcomer to this forum,but it seems there are some really solid, educated people out there who now life. I had a significant other for 13 years. It was really really hard to leave him, I truely loved him, but he's an alcoholic and and an addict. I just couldn't take it anymore. Yes, he too promised to marry me,but I couldn't because of all the damage he had done to me and my children during his years of drinking and druging, I tried Alanon, counseling, advice from friends and family, but when it came to the point where i had to go on an antideppersant to maintain my sanity, then i got the strength to leave him.I don't know your situation how long together if you have kids together, but i do know what it feels like to leave someone who you truely loved, but had to put your own sanity first. After we broke up or ishould say after i left him, he hooked up really quickly with a new woman who was so controlling she wouldn't allow us to communicate. Her jealousy was so overwhelming we stopped talking. That was 5 years ago. I haven't to this day talked to him or have not seen him. I dream of him alot.I would love to know where, how, what he is doing, but I've learned to let it go.perhaps it would be better to try and avoid him as much as possible. in the long run it will do your heart good, and you can learn to live your life, and live in happiness. Time does heal all wounds.Think of you and you first. Let him go with love and try and love yourself.Night time is the worst for me. If I could just take my brain out at night and put it back in in the morning then maybe i could get a decent nights sleep. Your not alone there are alot of us out here suffering from failed relationships, illnesses, depression, anxiety etc: keep communicating through this forum, I know you'll get the best advice.Hang in there, truely from stuckinarut.
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