It has been a long time since I have been on the forum. I am 51 and have been dealing with depression in one way or another all of my adult life. In am happy because of a few things that I figured out along the way:
1. This is a disease just like Diabetes, just like Parkinson's, and just like those diseases there is no cure. Because there is no cure it will not help me to wish that there was a cure. I got over that and moved on.
2. This is not a mental disorder. This is a physical disease that has mental and emotional effects. This disease does not make me weak, helpless or less of a deserving person than anyone else in the world.
3. Yes, this is hard but who promised me life would be easy?
4. No one has an easy life, if you think someone has it easy, look again, outside appearances are not always reality. We all have stuff that gets in the way, it is how we respond to that stuff that determines how "successful" or happy our lives are.
5. Because there is no cure, and because how I respond to the challenges will shape my future, I figured out what worked for me and then I did it. No guilt, no blame, no crap that weighs me down.
6. I and I alone am responsible for how I handle my disease, how my future is shaped and how satisfying my life is.
7. A sense of humor about my issues goes a long way toward a happy day. I once went through an interview for life insurance. They asked what medications I take and why. I told them that I take Lexapro for Perimenopausal Weirdness (yes, things did change when I got to that point in life). We both had a good laugh and got on with it.
8. I acknowledge that my dreams are possible and that only I will make them come true. Then I go out and do it, because I am in charge of my life and my disease.
9. My disease does not run my life.
10. I make no excuses when I have a bad day. Everyone has bad days occasionally, that makes me as normal as anyone on the planet.
11. I do not owe an explanation to anyone.
12. Every time I start to feel like I have trials in my life I remind myself that no Tsunamis are hitting my house today. I am warm, safe and fed. Life could be so much worse.
13. Collect inspiration, it is all around us.
Laura Ingalls Wilder published her first novel in the Little House series in her 60′s.
At the age of 89, Doris Haddock walked 3,200 miles from Los Angeles to Washington, D.C
Colonel Sanders was 62 when he founded KFC
At the age of 52, despite battles with diabetes, arthritis, and having his thyroid gland removed Ray Kroc started the McDonald’s brand.
In her 90′s Irene Wells Pennington took over her husband’s oil business after he went senile, turning it into a fortune worth $600 million.
14. Each day is a new opportunity and it is never too late to begin something new.
15. Every single day reach behind you and pull someone else up. It is good for everyone.
Just sharing my thoughts.