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faithfully4you
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   Posted 5/5/2011 9:00 AM (GMT -6)   
I finally got the strength to let go of a relationship that has brought me nothing but "ok"ness for 3 years. 
 
Tired of being treated like "anybody" else in his life.
 
Things are gonna change around here,I am so tired of being "just"
 
Happy Mother's Day to all of you celebrating on Sunday.
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault

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   Posted 5/5/2011 9:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Teresa,

I haven't been on line much lately, but when I saw your post, it made me so happy. I am glad you are going to get on with things in life. If it is meant to be, it will happen. I know that you have struggled a long time with this. Hence your memeber name. But I am so happy you have reached this decision. You are a very special person. I hope that you know that.

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   Posted 5/5/2011 9:43 AM (GMT -6)   
Wow, well done FF4U, what courage, I am proud!

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   Posted 5/5/2011 10:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Teresa,
 
Way to go,  glad you are taking care of yourself now.  Tough decision but it sounds like the best one for you.
 
Happy Mother's Day to you too.
 
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   Posted 5/6/2011 2:58 AM (GMT -6)   
awesome teresa !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! have a a great mothers day. jamie.
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faithfully4you
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   Posted 5/6/2011 8:48 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone~
The one true love in my life still exists and I know that time will tell but for all the in-between time, I have to do what makes me happy.  I am having a really hard time though now that the weather is nice and everything looks so new, I want to feel that way too!
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault

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   Posted 5/6/2011 10:29 PM (GMT -6)   
slow and steady wins the race teresa. keep strong, we are here for you. jamie.
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   Posted 5/7/2011 9:14 AM (GMT -6)   
You will feel new and fresh Teresa. Try to get out and enjoy your flowers and the weather. Maybe take a nice walk in the neighborhood. I wish you well.

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faithfully4you
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   Posted 5/11/2011 10:51 AM (GMT -6)   
I gotta be honest you guys......
feeling really depressed and hopeless.  Not sure why, nothing major happening but just really NOT HAPPY.
 
My phone is a big piece of poop and I hate Verizon, i guess that's the start.  No real ambition to do anything.
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault

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   Posted 5/11/2011 11:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Teresa,

I am sorry that you aren't happy. Is it because you are lonely? Remember you always have us to talk to. Somebody is usually close by. I am having trouble with the forum today, going from page to page. It gets stuck in limbo. I don' tknow if it is the computer or the forum. Hope it gets better soon.

I hope that you feel better soon Teresa. Is there anything that sounds remotely interesting to do? Maybe just go for a nice walk.

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   Posted 5/11/2011 10:42 PM (GMT -6)   
here for you teresa. hoping you feel better soon. me up n' down, that's bi-polar!!! slowly getting some study in, doing bits and peices, struggling to sit and be still with it, oh well, get up, do something, go back, study, get up-darn tiring!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol :----)))) keep hanging in there. my e-mail is open if ya need to chat. jamie
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faithfully4you
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   Posted 5/14/2011 2:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I cant even imagine getting any sadder than I have been these last several days.  The hopelessness and fatigue have just about taken over.  It is pretty bad when you wish it would rain instead of the sun shining. 
 
All I have been doing is crying, just want to feel happy again.
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault

It's Genetic
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   Posted 5/14/2011 3:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, Faithfully4U, I've promised not to try to give advice but to post on subjects that I think might be helpful to all forum members in some way. You seem special, somehow, so I hope my neighbors here will forgive me if I post one more time to a member:

You have an extraordinarily sensitive nature, Faithfully4U, which leads me to believe that you may be gifted in several ways. If that is the case, you need to go online and begin reading about giftedness and learn what you're like since gifted people may not always be aware that their sensitivities just don't register with "normal" (no such thing) people. It's like handling a delicate piece of china as opposed to a tough, rigid microwavable bowl. (Forgive the analogy-it was the first thing that came to mind.)

By learning about what the gifted personality is like, you may be able to calm your inner state and begin the search for where your best talents lie and try to work on developing them. You should convert your loneliness into creativity. The child within is begging you to do that. (Try this: draw a picture of yourself with your non-dominant hand. That will show you how your little one inside feels about herself at the moment. Keep working at
it until you feel happy with the way she is and you've stopped laughing at your drawing. The laughter is good for you; it releases the unconscious aggressions or anxieties.)

Earlier, you posted a remark about "loving someone is nothing; being loved by someone is not significant , but loving and being loved by someone is everything." (Or something similar) I was struck by that because somehow it seems important in life to love on a very high level, even though the love may not be returned just as one had wished. God always has a better plan in the long run.

To love is what we're here for; but it's too narrow to limit it to one who
is believed to be the soul mate. The highest love is always given psychologically and spiritually (outside the physical realm). Do you think that since you are obviously a gifted and very sensitive person that you can
raise your level of love to a higher state, such as that described by Saint Paul or Elizabeth Barrett Browning or Robert Browning or Shakespeare's view of real love? Nothing surpasses the Shakespearian sonnets for the depth of feeling and beauty of language expressing real love, or even the sadness of love as seen by Emily Dickinson. The deep things of life always involve both joy and sadness.

Your situation is almost like that of a first love. It's idyllic, but not realistic. Real love is hard work, as you know, and it's a powerful drive to
cause maturity and develop high reasoning capacity.

If your emotions are getting in the way of your intellectual ability to love,
maybe you could use some anti-anxiety medication until you can get your footing back properly with the gifted intellectual functioning you appear to be so capable of displaying.

I dislike so much the idea that human love may not be adequate. It's really very profound when it's directed to one's Higher Power; then it's showered in a spiritual sense among others. Limiting one's love to a soul mate only
puts a huge responsibility on someone else to meet our needs when we need to be meeting some of them ourselves.

Does this make sense? Or should I keep posting about ideas and stop the advice? You make the calls. I do think I'm right about your being a very gifted personality, though, and that carries with it strong personality traits that many people don't understand.

Look for the miracle, always.

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   Posted 5/14/2011 4:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Teresa,

I really find IG's post to be very deep. And I truly agree that you must be a gifted person. You are very special. And I agree about the part about the soulmate. It is a lot of responsibility to put yourself in that situation. I know that you have lost a love. But there are many people in this world, and I really think that eventually you are going to meet somebody. When the time is right. And that isn't always in what we consider our timeframe, but you are young and vibrant. Even if you don't see it.

IG,

I love when you give advice. You are so insightful. And you think very deeply. You always give good advice and I don't understand why you think you shouldn't. We all love to hear your opinion on things.

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ladyx
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   Posted 5/15/2011 3:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Saying enough is the bravest thing you can do. I came out from a physically and verbally abusive relationship 4 years ago. Now i'm happily married.

Be strong Teresa!

faithfully4you
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   Posted 5/16/2011 12:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone for your input.  It means alot to me that you take the time to really "talk" to me.  Everything that was said is true but the one thing that IG said is something about some first loves arent necessarily realistic.  The love I have spoke of is real just not within my grasp anymore.
 
I am just going through a bad time right now and to add to it,I think someone has hacked my aol account.  I am just so tired of crap like this happening at a time in my life when I really need positivity.
 
Just still really depressed.
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault

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   Posted 5/16/2011 2:05 PM (GMT -6)   
I just got a text on my tracfone. It says. Hi LOL... It took 30 of my minutes to read that text. And I don't know who it was from. It was like they knew it would take 30 min off of my time. My tracfone is prepaid. That made me furious. I am trying to find out who the number belongs to. Not too good at phones. Especially cell phones. But I will figure it out. I don't know why it would take so many minutes to read a text. From now on I will ignore.

Teresa, sometimes it just seems like things hit us all at once. And there are somethings that we can't seem to get out of our minds. We obsess over them and can't control it. Especially in your situation, where you were once so happy. And now you miss this person. You have been grieving over him for a long time now. And I feel like it isn't getting you anywhere. I wish that there was something that I could do or say to get you to forget and move on. I pray that someday you are free of these past memories. Even though they are good ones, you need to live in the present. Do you ever think about dating now? What if you started going out with other men? Or does that even fit into your lifestyle? You can't replace the love that you lost, but maybe you could find a new love.

Oh and whatever happened with your car? Did you sell it? I remember that you were having problems with it, but I don't remember if they were resolved.

Take care, keep your chin up and your head held high. You are a mighty fine preson and cherrished here.

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faithfully4you
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   Posted 5/19/2011 10:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks GB~
I used to have a tracphone and got rid of it because of similar problems.  Thats why I eventually went to verizon, which has been a joke as well, how I long for the rotary phones of long ago, lol.
 
The person you refer to is the same man that you know I love more than life itself and I have moved on to a certain degree as far as relationships but he will always hold that place even though the chance of us being one may never happen, I still will never replace that love and I have accepted that I guess.
 
As far as my car, yup, still have it minus the problems that I had.   Still have issues with the red tape around the whole episode but I still have my car.  Possibly looking for another next year.
 
Well, just wanted to let you know how things are with me.  I hope you are doing well too my friend!
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault

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   Posted 5/19/2011 12:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I am doing good. I just did a two and a half hour walk in the woods looking for mushrooms. I found a few nice ones. Will have them with supper. Now I am going to take the dogs for a walk. They were good while we were gone. One is still puppyish and this is only the second time she has been left without going in the crate. She did good while we were gone. So I think a walk is in order.

You sound better. I am glad. I am glad that you have your car minus the problems. I remember you had a rough time with all the problems. I am glad that they were fixed. Seems like it was a really nice car. Sporty?...

Keep us posted on how things are going. Your day will come Teresa. You are a good person, that I know.

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faithfully4you
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   Posted 5/31/2011 6:23 PM (GMT -6)   
still hanging in there.
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault

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   Posted 5/31/2011 9:06 PM (GMT -6)   
I am glad that you posted Teresa. I hope that you are hanging on good. Keep the faith my friend.

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faithfully4you
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   Posted 6/1/2011 3:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Another beautiful day in Ohio.......then why do I feel so bad all the time? 
Thinking about getting a motorcycle again but no training or money to buy one....wishful thinking.
Found some depressing information today, no big deal but hurtful.  Oh well....................
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault

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   Posted 6/1/2011 5:36 PM (GMT -6)   
It was nice here but windy. That probably wouldn't matter if a person were on a bike though, eh??? Save some money if you can and make that a goal Teresa. I know if anybody can do it, you can. I am sure thta they are expensive, but maybe you could get a used one. That would be too cool.

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PS Sorry about the depressing information. We are here if you want to share.
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   Posted 6/2/2011 4:54 AM (GMT -6)   
here for you mate. jamie.
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faithfully4you
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   Posted 6/2/2011 10:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone~
The motorcycle is a pipe-dream but sometimes it is nice to dream.  Went to the doctor today and found out that I am now in "post-menopause" GREAT!  But all my girly parts are in perfect order,lol.
 
I am dreading this weekend for various reasons but I guess I will live.
 
Can't believe it is June already,wish it were September.
At the point where hope would otherwise become hopelessness, it becomes faith. ~Robert Brault
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