We truly understand how you feel. That is all that all of us want. But maybe your husband isn't depressed and doesn't understand depression and how you feel. It is terribly hard to live with somebody who puts you down. It is like emotional abuse. I, myself (now) wouldn't live with it, because eventually you start to believe it. It brings you down. At one time in my life though I did, for 23 years. But in the end, it wasn't like that because he got cancer and died in 2000. Then he depended on me, but I still gave him unconditional love. So I am not saying he will always be this way, but you really need to talk to a counselor who can guide you through this. And make a better life for yourself. If not learn to express your wants and needs, and maybe he will change. But you might have to leave the situation all together if he isn't going to change. I know it is a hard decision, but I would go one step at a time, starting with a counselor. You may not be able to change him, certainly not control him, but you can change you. And change your situation around you. Learn to communicate, and if he can't do that, well, you may need somebody who can. Just saying.
I am glad that he started a job. This could change him and his way of thinking, knowing that you are working twice as hard. Just saying because you have two jobs and children to look after. And absence makes the heart grow fonder. You wont see eachother as much. So your time together should be better. I hope that this helps some.
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