Last night while making love, he couldn't kiss me and he looked a way...

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I got the blues
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Date Joined May 2011
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   Posted 5/8/2011 8:08 PM (GMT -6)   
We used to be a couple that had sex all the time. We're a regular family except I have cancer. But regardless, I love making love with my husband. Last night I just needed him emotionally and physically and I enjoyed it. Yet through out the whole thing he seemed to be looking away. While his hands were in me his face and thoughts were somewhere else. I don't know maybe I'm too needy but the last 12 moths we have had sex maybe 10 times, and I have been sick for nearly 6 yrs. We used to do it 2-3 times a week. We devoured each other and now nada. He doesnt even kiss me. I'm feeling like he doesn't love me anymore and only together with me because I'm so very sick. I'm not strong enough to make any life altering changes, but when we're intamte I feel whole as a woman.

Please give me some advice.

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 5/8/2011 10:28 PM (GMT -6)   
communication is the key. you need to express that you feel whole as a woman when making love. and you need to ask his reasons for turning away from it. it must be honest communication. i wish you well. with compassion, jamie.
SCHIZO-AFFECTIVE DISORDER, EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, BORDERLINE TYPE -AXIS 2 , BI-POLAR AFFECTIVE DISORDER AXIS 1

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

getting by
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   Posted 5/9/2011 7:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Blues,

Welcome to the depression forum. I agree wtih Jamie, Communication is the key. Talk to him, let him know how you feel.

I will write more later. Kind of down myself, I am so sorry you have c ancer. You sound so strong inside though. Don't ever give up. Remember we are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies
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