HELP, my husband has depression and I don't know how to help him!

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   Posted 5/8/2011 8:18 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm sure there've been posts on helping those with depression and I will do a search but wanted to put this out there now...hope that's ok. I'm normally on the chronic pain/fibromyalgia forums, but sometimes come over here cuz I love encouraging people.

My husband, who is almost ALWAYS cheery and upbeat is a people pleaser and a guy told him last week that he is a slacker, lazy and doesn't deserve to be in his job! Well, now he's allowing this man to absolutely destroy him and I don't know how to help him. All he's done is lay on the couch or bed and sleep or watch TV and fall asleep. He's been sleeping like 14 hours a day!!!!

What do I do, I can't take it anymore! I'm a very active-get-things-done kind of person and it's depressing ME to look over (in our small apartment) and see him lying there with a blanket over him and a "whoa is me" look on his face!

WHAT DO I DO??????????


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   Posted 5/8/2011 10:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Blondie-Try and encourage him to get out with his buddies for some fun or go out and do stuff together and maybe he'll open up and talk about his feelings. I've even asked my husband who I know is depressed to see the Dr. Sorry to hear that guy said that about your husband.

He needs to find the strength within himself and fight through this. He sounds like a bully to your husband and hope your husband will get through this. Maybe he needs some physical exercise or try to get him to go for a walk with you. I really hate bullies at work it's a tough situation where your a good person and someone is always trying to make it tough on you or your husband I mean.

I've seen my big strong nice brother reduced by bullies at work until he had the union step in and he even had to get in hospital treatment for stuff that happened to him as a child because of all what happened triggered some bad memories with an abusive father and he even became diabetic because of release of cortisol with the stress and his whole family had to help him pull through this and he's done it! Get your husband's family involved too and you won't be so alone trying to pick up your broken man by yourself with this bully on his back. Praying for your husband's situation he will get through this. Take care. Sara
Chronic back and leg pain. Degenerative disc disease for 3 years and unable to work since injuring my back. EMG/nerve test shows peroneal sciatic nerve is being irritated from L4-L5 disc area. Meds-Oxycontin, Cymbalta, lyrica, flexeril,Wellbutrin, Oxazepam for sleep. TX-facet joint, trigger point, nerve block and epidural injections every year x 3 years with temporary relief only. Did PT.

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   Posted 5/8/2011 11:51 PM (GMT -6)   
counselling is very benefical, and something i highly recommend, jamie

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