doubtful of hope

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reba911
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   Posted 5/10/2011 9:34 PM (GMT -5)   
I have had depression for a while now. I don't know if my kind is common or not, but I tend to feel too needy of everyone else, desperate for attention and friends to always be with me, but then I just feel like a bother and that no one even likes me. I feel that I am worthless and no one can stand me. I often feel uncomfortable around people because I fear rejection, their thoughts on me, and stupid actions I might make. I also feel like I am not good enough and that no one would ever truly like me as a friend no matter how much they would tell me. And I fear that my depression is pushing the people away that probably do care about me, even though I fear they don't care. And I just know that I need help, but don't know if there is any method that can help me from this depression. It just doesn't feel possible. And I know that it isn't just because I'm a teen. When I was in third grade, I remember going to the bathroom and crying because I thought I didn't have any friends. I wish someone would like me that I would actually be able to fully believe. cry

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   Posted 5/11/2011 9:00 AM (GMT -5)   
Hi Reba911,

What you need to do is go to counseling and get some CBT therapy. It helps in the way that you think of yourself and others. It will teach you to like yourself and not expect everything from others, such as praise and acceptance. You learn to praise yourself. You are an important person in this world. Remember that. Try to like yourself. Know that you ar ea good person.

Hugs, Karen

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reba911
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   Posted 5/11/2011 6:07 PM (GMT -5)   
Karen,
I wish I could do that, but I know that I can't do it alone. And my parents don't have enough money for counseling for me and our insurance doesn't cover too much. But thanx for your comment. It means allot to me.
-Reba911

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   Posted 5/11/2011 7:49 PM (GMT -5)   
Often mental health offices will work on what is called a sliding scale meaning that they will render services at a very low price. Around 10-20 dollars. There is a book called "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. It is all about cognative behavioral therapy. It is a really good book. You can find it on Amazon for around six dollars. If you run acrossed it it is also called "the new mood therapy". There are many other books on cbt also. That is always a good resource. So check it out. I find we have to learn to be our own advocate when it comes to things like these. We have to look a little but we will find the resources to help us.

Know that you have us behind you now. We are strong as a group. It has been a little slow this week. I imagine that everybody is out enjoying the weather, depending on where they are. It is usually more active than this here.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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reba911
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   Posted 5/11/2011 10:08 PM (GMT -5)   
Karen-
Are you sure that something as simple as a book would be able to help me though? I hope that it would help, but I feel that it wouldn't. I found a counselor that doesn't live far from where I am, and maybe she can help. My mom is going to call her tomorrow. Thanx for the help :)
-Reba911

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   Posted 5/12/2011 6:39 AM (GMT -5)   
Reba,

I am so happy that you are going to see a counselor. The book "feeling good" teaches us how to control our moods and the way we react to things. It really is a good book, but see what your counselor has to say. I have had many counselors use this book. But it is up to you. It wouldn't hurt to read it and it is cheaply found. But none the less, I am so delighted that you are going to see a counselor, you are on your way to healing.

Hugs, Karen
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reba911
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   Posted 5/12/2011 7:05 AM (GMT -5)   
Karen- I certainly hope so. I also need help on how i react to stuff. But for the book, I need to save up. I only get payed 5 dollars every 2 weeks.
-Reba911

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   Posted 5/12/2011 8:58 AM (GMT -5)   
Some fo the used ones are even cheaper, just take a look and see how much they are used. Amazon has used books. Your counselor may have some better books in mind. There is so much out there, also try the library and read for free.

Best wishes to you with counseling.

Remember to be honest so that they can help you. That is what they are there for and everything is confidential.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 5/12/2011 10:20 AM (GMT -5)   
I also send best of wishes that this counselor can be of help...
please keep us posted as to how it goes, High School sure can be
hard, it was a hard time for me, too...you will make it thru this
seeking out help is good...you are a good and worthy person...
well wishes...
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