Id just like someone to talk to me/help me...

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yougotafriend4
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   Posted 5/16/2011 3:48 PM (GMT -6)   
i just really need someone to talk to as i feel like im crying out for help.
ive come on here as i have no honest clue what to do anymore. ive got to the point
where i couldnt care less if i , and im still young. nobody understands, i think they
all think its just a phase, but its really not.. i have a few problems that are taking over
my life. im not an alcoholic but i do drink alot, i didnt drink as much up until this year
as i didnt need to but then i started to turn to it thinking if i get drunk ill forget
everything for just a couple of hours but i just end up getting myself in more trouble.
theres this boy i love so so much, and i honestly have no clue what to do anymore, he is
just under three years older than me and he's seventeen, and i probably sound like such a
drama queen but i mean this, id do anything for him, if it meant i could be with him now id
quite happily spend the rest of my life with him. but he doesnt want to be with me because
of two reasons = drinking and age. it hurts so much because i dont talk to him as often as
we should speak, and he used to like me but then got back with his ex, and once he came out
of their relationship he told me he had started to develop feelings for me again and its been
on/off for six months now and he doesnt like me anywhere near as much as i like him. he
has recently started working at my youth club and i think tomorrow im just going to tell him
everything he knows that i like him very much etc as its been complicated buuut im so nervous
and he doesnt know how much, he used to have depression and since seeing a councillor theyve
said he has an adults head now and wants to be in a comitted relationship. im so stuck on
what to do.
another problem is my family, i just dont see them anymore and i feel so bad, i can always
sense when something bad is going to happen and i can sense that it will soon, whether
its to do with me or my family..i dont know but i  find it so hard to spend time with them
as i just dont enjoy their company and it sounds so bad but my friends are more fun in a
different way. i can just sit alone and cry for hours over and over about this sort of thing,
i dont know what to do, who to turn to, and recently i have been  in a fairly secret
place, and its not the right way to go but i feel pleased with myself for not showing
others how im really feeling and i always put on a happy face but im dieing inside..
i just really need someone who is good with advice to help me or someone who has been
through the same thing.

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 5/16/2011 5:00:01 PM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 5/16/2011 4:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the Depression forum. I take it you are 14 or 15. I must tell you that even though the drinking helps you forget for awhile, it is a depressant and will make you depressed. By the sound of it this boy wants you to quit drinking. I agree with him. And when you get older, three years is nothing. But maybe he feels that you are too young for him at this time. But when you both get older, he might feel differently.

Please don't drink. Learn to have fun without alcohol. It is really bad for you. And it sounds like it is in the way of a relationship. Hang in there, you are young yet. Things do get better. I promise they do.

I have to tell you too, we aren't allowed to discuss self harm on this forum. Or suicide. So I will have to edit your post.
 
Do you still live at home?  Just wondering. 

Keep posting though.

Hugs, Karen
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Post Edited (getting by) : 5/16/2011 6:16:27 PM (GMT-6)


bbomber
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   Posted 5/16/2011 6:10 PM (GMT -6)   
hey, tell me whats going on.  The short story PLEASE...

yougotafriend4
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   Posted 5/17/2011 8:19 AM (GMT -6)   
basically, i love someone who doesnt love me back because of my age and alcohol and i dont know what to do anymore. plus my mam is adding extra pressure on me all the time everything i do she questions it over and over and then has a go at me for not spending time at home

Lasardo
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   Posted 5/18/2011 6:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Read your post.. Was your age once to, remember brother picking me up out of the street after drinking to much, was in. Love with a boy also..things change. I do not drink anymore because it made me so depressed and do stupid things, make bad decisions etc. I take meds and see a councler now. And take full advantage of this website. It's been a blessing.
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theHTreturns...
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   Posted 5/19/2011 1:53 AM (GMT -6)   
am nearly 39 and hardly drink because of my complex mental amd medical health..........in particular insulin dependant diabetes and because it is a depressant. i have seen toooooo many mates in a mess because of it. one mate is in a particular mess and he is in his fifties!!! it is a serious medical and mental health condition. jamie.
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yougotafriend4
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   Posted 5/19/2011 10:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Thankyou... you've kind of helped by saying that cos i dont feel stupid writing this i thought people would think it was pathetic :/

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 5/19/2011 10:55 AM (GMT -6)   
far from it mate!!!! keep strong ok. with much healing compassion, jamie
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yougotafriend4
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   Posted 5/22/2011 2:27 PM (GMT -6)   
I need someone to talk too, but without having to tell my mam anything as i dont want her to know because she wouldnt understand cause most adults think that kids dont go through anything and there lives are 'perfect'. Im so confused and upset and just dont know what to do anymore

getting by
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   Posted 5/22/2011 3:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,
 
If you can't get to a counselor without your parents knowing about it, here are some sites that might help you. 
 
 
I don't know if this is the kind of help that you need, but it might be.  If you don't have anybody to talk to, know that you can always come here.  And check out these sites and see if they are of any help.  I hope that they are.  Let us know, okay? 
 
 
I hope that you are feeling better than you were.  Growing up is hard, but take life one day at a time.  Don't rush it, because the older you get, the faster it goes by.  And I am serious.  It goes by so fast now for me.  Weeks seem like days.  Here it is and the year is almost half over.  I don't know where it went. 
 
Anyway, I hope that you are feeling better, let us know how things are going.
 
Take care,
 
Hugs, Karen
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