You are just setting yourself up to get hurt. Forget about hurting him, if you want out of the situation, get out of it. Did you know that you can be sued by his wife as a corespondant if she finds out about this? Know that he will always have his life with his wife, and you will never come first. She will. And if they have children, that makes it even more complicated.
In actuality, you are being very selfish. You could be ruining a whole family if they have children. Would you like this to happen to you? You might not realize it now, but it could. And I am sure that you would be devastated. Especially if there were children concerned. He is using you, and you are using him too. It doesn't feel like a good relationship. I would get out now while the getting is good.
With the fact that he is older than you, that makes it even more difficult to have a relationship. Especially if you are young, and it sounds like you are. He will be getting old and you will still be young and vibrant. I don't think it is going to work out for you. And I hate to see you get hurt more than you already are. I don't mean to sound like a downer, but I honestly don't see this going anywhere. And remember, if he cheats on his wife, if you were to ever get together, he will cheat on you too. He doesn't really sound like a very nice guy. He is using both of you.
I hope that you can find your way to a healthy relationship. Take this one day at a time, but do back out of this relationship for your own good.
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