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Syferix
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   Posted 5/24/2011 4:54 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm not sure what to do anymore and while trying to help myself out, I was hoping I could get some useful advice or resources from this forum.

I've been depressed for a very very long time. Everything started when I was 14 and was bullied by people I thought were my friends. It got worse in high school and in college, while the bullying wasn't as bad, I still felt out of place and didn't have many friends. Now, at age 26, I feel like a loser and failure as I can't find a job, significant other, or even any decent friends to hang out with.

On the social front, I've signed up for services like meetup.com but it hasn't quite worked out. Most of the meets are downtown at night and being a young female, I know that it's not the wisest idea to travel there myself.

Professionally, I've sent out my resume to numerous places but have yet to get any positive responses. Most are disappointed with my only experience being that of freelance...

Ideally, I'd love to build up my design company and have enough clients to do steady business, but I'm not even sure where to look for said clients. I'd love to be able to move out of my parents' house and have a place of my own. Having a significant other and/or a group of close friends to offer support would be amazing. Getting professional help is something I'm open to, yet I don't make very much money at all, only about $2,000 a year, so I don't think I can afford it.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Chartreux
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   Posted 5/24/2011 5:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Go back to the College/University that you graduated from, as they probably have employment
opportunities for you to take advantage of, maybe even take a resume class, sort of as
a refresher class...You are not in any ways a failure many people coming out of College/
university are having a struggle getting that first job, but you will...Also go to the State department
on-line in your state to see about jobs and where to go...Look into the business section of the newspaper
to find "how to start up a business" sometimes these class are free or low cost, just a thought.
Don't be so terribly hard on yourself your a good person and you will find a job...
Keep us posted, well wishes to you...
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getting by
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   Posted 5/24/2011 7:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum. I am so glad that you have joined us. Many mental health facilities have what is called a sliding scale. That means that they charge you according to your income. Check into that. You might be able to get therapy that way.

I think you got some good advice on taking courses. Going back to school would be great and you could get a grant from the government and those you don't have to pay back. Learning is always good for us.

I hope that things work out for you. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen
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Syferix
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   Posted 5/31/2011 2:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks to everyone for the advice. Here's a little update.

I think a lot of my depression is linked to natural hormonal changes, more specifically my menstrual cycle as it seems I tend to hit rock bottom before I get my period. I've been trying out 5-HTP and it seems to help but I'm wondering if anyone has experience with it? Does it need to be taken /everyday/ or is it possible to take it for the week before my period and still have it be effective? Also, I'd be curious to know if people have done research on how a woman's menstrual cycle affects mood - we all know about PMS but what about severe depression??

Since I've posted I feel a lot better. I contacted a few professionals and they gave me some references and resources but I've yet to take advantage of them.... Some had free or sliding scale clinics they included but right now I feel fine. As far as that goes, I think I'm going to start recording my moods daily and see if I can't notice a pattern and if it's consistently worse before my period. If so, I'll try taking 5-HTP that week and see how things go.

Professionally I've done quite a bit too! I'm going to put the job hunt mostly on hold and really try and focus on promoting my graphic design business as ideally, I'd really like for it to take off (more than finding a full time job). I've done the work to get listed on the yellow pages and yelp, have set up google adsense, and sent facebook messages to all my friends asking for referrals. I have a big list of other things to do too, so we'll see how this all goes.

Socially everything is a bit rough still, but I managed to have a good weekend regardless - especially because I had signed up for a groupon and went to a photography workshop.

I may check out the community college near me to think about taking some continuing education classes in something I'd like to learn. While I wouldn't mind, I'm not sure getting a Masters for Graphic Design would help me much - most of the research I've done has said as such - and I'm hesitant to go to grad school when what I need to do is get my business off the ground...

getting by
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   Posted 5/31/2011 2:49 PM (GMT -6)   
It sounds like you have a lot going for you right now. That is wonderful. And I think you are making wise choices. Though a master's would be nice...

I think you have a good idea of starting a journal around your cycles. I am not positive, but I think that the 5htp can be taken as needed. So I would recommend a week before you cycle like you said. But you can check at a health food store or where ever you got it and ask to make sure. I use to have really bad pms, so I know what it is like. I ended up going on antidepressants and there I stayed. So if you can take care of it naturally, that is great.

I am glad you went to the photography workshop. It sounds like you really enjoyed it. I am glad. These are good things to do with your time.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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