depression and the need for people around you (adopting Children)

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   Posted 5/28/2011 3:12 PM (GMT -6)   
I have a question about my Wife, she like many had a semi rough childhood growing up, she was an only child, and always had to have someone around and to play with to the point she would bribe or give kids things to play with her, well her goal in high school was to have 10 or 12 Children, well she started Foster care and started adopting Children, she is now at 13, plus one Biological child, and she is currently having an affair with another man, that was one of her grandma's old foster kid, she brought him into our home and then starting hanging out with him everyday and kicked me out and moved him into our bed, she did basically the same thing with me and her first husband, she had me come around visiting and spending time with me and then he just left, she also had postpartum depression with our daughter,

Is there a connection between her having Depression and wanting to adopt all these children ??? We don't have money to send these kids to college or anything so I'm not sure of her goal ?

I feel the way she breaks off a relationship is because she doesn't want to be alone ???

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   Posted 5/28/2011 4:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't know if she has a realistic goal in mind. Are you still kicked out? Where are you living now? Do you get to see your daughter? It sounds like it is something that runs in the family, if her grandmother had foster kids. It also sounds like she lines another man up before she gets rid of the one that she has. I believe that it is an insecurity of not wanting to be alone, but she is toying with childrens lives. Maybe giving them a place to stay, but can she give them a future? I don't know. I guess if children need a home, then she is the place to go. I imagine that you would like to send your daughter to college. Since you are out of the home and don't have all the expenses, could you save money for her education?

I am sorry for what you are going through. How long were you together? She must have a huge house, eh? That is a lot fo kids.

Best wishes to you. Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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