20 year old mom.

Should i go through housing without him?
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YES- he dont deserve me - 100.0%
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NO- stay with him. - 0.0%

 
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AMANDACOLLAR
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   Posted 6/3/2011 8:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Im 20 years old. i just had a babygirl 7 weeks ago. shes beautiful. the dad is my boyfriend of 2 years and some. he does absolutely nothing for her. he never wants to feed her, or change her or anything. makes me so mad. and when i ask him to he gives me complete attitude. ever since she came along we have been fighting constantly. but i wouldnt give her for anything i just love her so much. i just dont what to do. he doesnt have a job. im trying to get one because he will not get off the dumbass xbox to go out and apply anywhere. he is basically mooching off his mom. he has been since i been with him. and she puts up with it. she doesnt want him to get a job, becuase she wants to claim me, and my daughter for taxes next year so she can get all that money back. thats not happening. SO IRRITATING PLEASE HELP!

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   Posted 6/4/2011 6:17 AM (GMT -6)   
He sounds like a loser, get rid of him. He can't claim you as a dependant if he isn't working. But you can claim him as one. If you have worked. Know that she is your responsiblilty now. And if he doesn't want to participate, that is his loss. You should love doing things for your daughter. Even if it is work. She is yours. Don't expect him to do anything, it doens't sound like he wants to, but I wouldn't let him mooch off of you or see her if he doesnt want to help. I missread, I see she wants to claim you for taxes. Do you live with her? Does she support you? It sounds like you are getting taken advantage of my dear. Let me know if you live with the mother...

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AMANDACOLLAR
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   Posted 6/5/2011 12:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes i do live with her mother. but i take care of myself. i get money through welfare service. and also foodstamps (which she expects me to give it to her each month) she gets mad if i dont let her take my food stamp card. she thinks that since she took me in that she gets it all. thats $526 in food stamps. and its blown in like 2 weeks plus all our food is mostly gone too because its only meant for me, my bf, and my daughter are on it. its not meant for 5 people in a household. so irritating. i dont know whether to go through housing or not.
--AMANDA <3

getting by
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   Posted 6/5/2011 6:12 PM (GMT -6)   
If you are staying with her, then I guess you should provide food and rent. I know that doen't leave much for you, but that is part of being an adult. Just make sure you get your daughter what she needs. If you were to go through housing, you wouldn't have the irritation of the mother. You would have your own place, but believe me, it still wont be easy, nothing is. But you can make ends meet and still have enough to enjoy life a little. I am just saying that neither way is going to be a piece of cake. But in housing it would just be you and your daughter probably.

I guess this is your decision, you don't have to stay there. It doesn't sound like the boyfriend helps, so like I say, if he wont work, you are better off without him.

Take care, get some counseling so you can have some direction in your life.

Hugs, Karen
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AMANDACOLLAR
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   Posted 6/5/2011 8:20 PM (GMT -6)   
thanks Karen! means alot. felt good talking to someone.
--AMANDA <3
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