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mommy636
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   Posted 6/12/2011 2:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey everyone! I am brand new to this and am hoping for some help with my relationship.  My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years.  I am an affectionate person and he is not.  We have an  8 month old daughter (I know we werent dating for long, but she is the most loved baby!) and the way he actually shows that he loves her and pays attention to her gets me jealous sometimes.  I just wish that he was able to show the affection to me.  He only touches me in bed, and even then he falls asleep right away or he wants something from me.  I feel myself slowly drifting into a depression, and am terrified.  I try to make myself happy by diving head first into our daughters care, but the lack of love that I feel from my boyfriend is getting to me.  There are things though that he does do that he shows that he loves me.  But we rarely ever get time together alone, either he is out with friends and doesnt ever let me know what is going on, comes home at 2 am drunker than a skunk or is too tired to do anything.  I need help on how to fix this!
 
Thank you everyone! wink

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   Posted 6/12/2011 3:11 PM (GMT -6)   
I would let him know that coming in at two am drunk is unacceptable. But don't be jealous of the affection that he is giving your daughter. Is he working and providing for the family? Maybe you would feel better if you two were married. It does make a difference in the way that you feel. Like you belong. I know it is just a piece of paper, but you still feel a part of something. Think about it.

Do you go out with friends once in awhile? Maybe you are due for that. And let him watch the baby for a couple of hours.

I hope that you feel better soon. There will be others on with advice.

Hugs, Karen

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mommy636
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   Posted 6/12/2011 3:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you getting by for your help. He does provide for the family Im a stay at home mom right now looking for a job I moved to be with him. We want to get married but we can't afford anything yet. I don't have friends as of now that live permanently here but I have been out with friends twice since my daughter has been born.

Thank you for your advice wink

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   Posted 6/12/2011 5:07 PM (GMT -6)   
I am glad that you feel it was help. It is hard being a new mom, though some women enjoy it. But I think you will all get along just fine. You have to adjust to a new way of living. I wish you well.

Hugs, Karen
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lynn71
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   Posted 6/13/2011 12:20 AM (GMT -6)   
I began to feel that way a few months after my son was born. I found out I was suffering from post partum depression which I then ended up being diagnosed with a few other things but that is me. I can relate to the feelings of jealousy. You could possibly be having a little bit of post partum. Have you talked to your doctor yet? Maybe an anti depressant or just tell him you would like to have a date night once a week.
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