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anniegirl1967
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   Posted 6/15/2011 7:49 AM (GMT -6)   
So glad I found a place to be heard. Ive been seeing doctors all winter and there is no explanation for how I feel. I have have a lot of fatigue and joint pain. A mild sinus problem with pain in the right ear and mild sore throat. Ive been to a nutritionist, allergist, ENT, hollistic, had an MRI, lots of bloodwork, nerve conduction testing. Nothing. Ive done the Gluten and Dairy free diet. Ive taken many suplements. My doctor says I have an unrealistic idea of what a 44 year old woman should feel like and that I should take some anti depressants. I have never been so weak in my life. Ive always had a lot of energy, been strong and healthy. In the last four years Ive gone down hill and I feel like I just keep sinking further and further. Dont know what to do. I take Lipitor for high cholesterol. Other than that all my tests are normal. Im 125 lbs and 5.2. I dont feel fat but I do feel better when I weigh less. Ive tried losing a few lbs and it just doesnt work. I can fast for a week and lose two lbs only to gain it right back. I workout everyday. I usually do the treadmill or walk, or mow the lawn. I have days that are a lot worse than others. I just dont know if the doctor is right and Im depressed or if it is a physical problem. Thanks for listening.

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   Posted 6/15/2011 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Anniegirl1967,

Depression can cause fatigue and pain. But have you been checked for fibromyalgia? It almost sounds like you have it. Visit the fibro forum and read a thread called "fibro 101" There is a list of symptoms there that might help you to determine what is going on. I am not saying that you have it, but the symptoms sound familiar.

It doesn't sound like you are over weight. Starving ourselves only makes the body hang on to calories. I have lost weight by drinking lemon water and walking. I eliminated soda out of my diet. As it has a lot of calories.

I hope that you find what is right for you. Don't give up. You will find the answers. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen
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It's Genetic
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   Posted 6/15/2011 2:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Karen is likely right on target as usual, AnnieGirl, and I might add that
low levels of vitamin C will cause symptoms. Not very many doctors
check for that; often they check for B12 levels because the B vitamins
all provide for increased energy, but they do not always check vitamin
C or D levels.


I'm not a doctor and can tell you only what has worked for me. When I feel depleted of energy, I look back at the day prior to the low-energy- level day and make sure that I didn't have an overload of heavy physical activity at that time. If not, then I know that I should increase my vitamin C, D, and B levels by taking a high-quality multiple vitamin. In addition, adding some good quality protein to your diet might help the energy boost. As you know, many people take a high-quality multiple vitamin daily just for good measure because of the American diet.

Metabolism slows down as we age, and it may be that's also what the
doctor was referring to. The treadmill will help with energy production, too, so I'd keep that going if you feel like it.

You've had all the allergy tests, I feel sure, for foods and inhalants, including trees, grasses, molds, etc. This is the grass season and bothers those who are allergic to them. You might wish to notice whether yours is an all-the-time reduction of energy or seasonal. If seasonal, you know you have an allergy of some sort that hasn't been verified yet. The two most common food allergies that cause reactions may be corn and wheat for many. For others, it's something else in the diet.

You have a puzzle to solve, AnnieGirl, and that's how you might wish to investigate your evaluation of what's happening. Make sure of Karen's suggestions first, however, because she is moderator of Fibromyalgia, Allergies,Depression, and Chronic Fatigue Forums and knows the way to guide you in your search.

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anniegirl1967
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   Posted 6/15/2011 7:40 PM (GMT -6)   
I just read fibro 101. Its very interesting. My doctor did tell me that she thought it sounded like fibro. Ive just never heard anything about it that sounded like it was real. I can tell you that I do have costocondritis. Ive had this pain in my sternum that comes on very suddenly and is very painful. Even to take a breath. Then it goes as quickly as it came. I have had all the allergy tests, I showed nothing. Sometimes I think this is all in my head and Im just depressed. In the last few years my life has changed drastically. My kids all left. As soon as they turned 16 they decided it was more fun to live with dad. No rules, no expectations. I rented my house and moved in with my boyfriend. I love him dearly but we are opposite. He hates to be home, I love it. I talk, he doesnt. It seems like he wants to be anywhere that Im not. It sounds like Im complaining all the time but I cant help it because thats the way I feel. It seems like when Im with a man , I give up a part of myself. When Im alone Im strong and capable, I take better care of me and the way I look. When Im with a man I cant make my own decisions, I dont seem to care how I look. I just dont know. I seem to feel guilty a lot. Yesterday I had a bad day and spent a lot of time resting. I felt very guilty about that. Even tho it was raining outside and my boyfriend is never home, I still felt guilty about resting. Why? Maybe I need some anti crazy pills.

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   Posted 6/15/2011 7:58 PM (GMT -6)   
No, Annie Girl, you don't just need some "anti-crazy" pills!  What would probably help would be to see your doctor again for a confirmation of fibromyalgia if that's the problem so that you may be treated medically for it.
 
The second thing I might suggest is that you talk to a counselor or
psychiatrist.  From you last post it appears to me that you may have a little conflict going on with your relationship with the man whom you love, and you might wish to get a professional opinion about helping you manage your own independence and still retain a happy relationship with someone whom you care for.
 
We've all had experience with help from psychiatrists at one time or another, and you'll find that they can be wonderful people who give great insight into what we feel are almost unresolvable situations.  I rank them as some of the best in the medical profession for personal help in overcoming anxieties.
 
Karen will be particularly helpful with guiding you along the Fibromyalgia route and depression if it turns out that you have a minor problem with that, so I hope you will keep posting to let her and other members have an opportunity to bring you up to date on what you might do in regard to the fibro and depression.
 
Try to keep well in the meantime, and do keep posting as you wish.
 
Take care.
 
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anniegirl1967
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   Posted 6/17/2011 7:42 AM (GMT -6)   
Well, its another day and Im still in pain. I have another appt scheduled with the holistic chiropractor on Tuesday. I dont feel like its helping that much. He isnt covered by insurance and its getting to be too expensive. He uses electrodes, adjusts my back, does some kinesiology and gives me supplements that are supposed to be helping my thyroid. I still feel the same except Im taking a lot of pills and have no money. If that isnt depressing, I dont know what is. I get up and go to work everyday, I try not to let the pain bother me. I do think it would help to talk to a therapist. I will ask my doctor to suggest one. Im also going to ask her about testing for fibro. I guess its time to face the fact that maybe I do have some chronic illness and its not just me getting in my own way. Im wondering of anyone has used chlorophyl for pain management. My chiropractor suggested it. It hasnt helped me yet. I keep thinking my mind is stopping all of this stuff from working.

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   Posted 6/17/2011 7:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Maybe this chiropractor isn't the right approach. Maybe you should see a doctor and get on some antidepressants. I know that you probably don't like meds, as you are going with a holistic approach. But sometimes we need them. I do a lot of walking and that helps me. Though I do take meds too.

Best wishes in feeling better.

Hugs, Karen
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anniegirl1967
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   Posted 6/18/2011 9:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Karen,
You sound like you have the same types of problems that I have, fatigue, pain, allergies and sometimes depression. What meds do you take for pain? Nothing seems to touch mine. Im thinking a muscle relaxer might help. Do you have any experience with them?

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   Posted 6/18/2011 9:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Annie,

I take norco for pain. They are a ten mg. vicodin, with less tylenol. I take six a day. I am suppose take on every four hours, but I take two of them three times a day. The doc said it was okay. I use to take soma which is a muscle relaxer, but my new doc took it away. He wants me on flexeril, which I hate because it gives me a hang over. I still have many somas for when I need them, and the flexeril. Some people really like flexeril, but I don't. The doctors consider soma as a buzz drug, but I never felt it. I would get loopy for about 20 min if I didn't eat with it, so I made sure to take it with food. But lately I haven't needed the muscle relaxers. I do meditation and that helps relax me. I hope that you find out what is going on. If you suspect fibromyalgia, go to the fibro forum and look at a thread called "fibro101". It is a stickie thread so it is always at the top of the page. Second thread. It has a list of symptoms on it. You could read that list and see if it sounds like what you have. Depression can mock it, but a lot of times, fibro causes depression because you are in pain and so tired all the time. I hope that this helps in some small way. Or a big waylol... Take care, and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
 
PS  I have noticed a lot of women get fibro in their 40's, you might want to look into this with your doc.  You already have a lot of things ruled out already.  And basically that is the only way to test for fibro.  Plus a tender point test on your back.
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anniegirl1967
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   Posted 6/20/2011 4:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Karen,
I did go to the fibro forum and I do have just about every symptom on the list. I will talk to my doctor when I see her next. Im going back to the chiropractor tomorrow and Im going to ask him just where he thinks this is going. Im also going to ask him about figromyalgia and the pain in my right ear. It really is bothering me today. Its funny that the problems in my head are all on the right side and the problems in my body are mostly on my left side. Anyway, today Im doing Motrin, swimming and trying to relax. The stress of having three teenagers and one who desperately needs a new car and is begging me to help him is driving me a little crazy today.

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   Posted 6/20/2011 5:24 PM (GMT -6)   
I know it is hard. Don't overextend yourself financially. I can just imagine three teens. Wow!!! You must have nerves of steel. lol...

I am glad that you looked at the fibromyalgia forum. There is a long list of symptoms. I have most of them, but not all. I have mine pretty much under control. But today I was especially aching more. It was really humid today too. So I think it is the weather.

I am glad that you are seeing the chiropractor tomorrow. Let us know what he says. Swimming is the best exercise and the best thing for fibro if you have it. It is gentle on the muscles. Just try not to over do it. That is easy to do.

I hope that you feel better soon. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen
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anniegirl1967
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   Posted 7/2/2011 7:00 AM (GMT -6)   
I am super depressed today. I feel like my heart is broken. My boyfriend slept on the couch last night. Not because he is mad or anything. Just because its his habit to come home after Im asleep and sleep on the couch until about 3 and then come to bed. This morning he just didnt get up and come to bed. I dont know why that breaks my heart. To me, sleeping on the couch means you are mad. The act of sharing a bed means love to me. Im just feeling so sad. The things he does are just so noncompassionate. He rarely talks and he expects that I should just know things. He plans things and then tells me, sometimes. He doesnt want to do anything with me and I feel like he would do anything not to spend time with me. It hurts. The thing is that I've made my bed. Im here in it and here I will stay. My chiropractor told me last week that I have Lyme disease. He says I have two bands of possitivity. So now I have to go to a specialist who doesnt take my insurance. Just had to help my son buy a car. Now he is complaining about it. Im broke , sad and sick. God help me.

hurtandscared
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   Posted 7/2/2011 10:20 AM (GMT -6)   
I feel nothing like the person i used to be. Cant do anything anymore since having gerd, anxiety attacks, depression and my breathing problems. My breathing has gotten worse everyday. Always gotta catch my breath even when i yawn. Cant even do anything with my friends or family, im very anti social now. Dislike holidays. Never get any sleep. People around me just dont understand and they never will. Dont like waking up in pain, going to bed in pain, basically everyday is a struggle to want to keep going. No job, no income, cant work til im back to health and thats looking like never. Im never going to be normal again, so y even try. Im at the edge of the cliff now and ready to jump. Im scared to die but is living with all this pain worth it, i just dont know anymore. Thanks 4 listening.
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