DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY IS RUINING MY RELATIONSHIP

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jazz92
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   Posted 6/17/2011 11:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello, I just really needed some help on this issue I've been having
 
Within the last 3 years of my life I've been diagnosed and suffering from GAD (general anxiety disorder) and clinical depression. This is a constant struggle for me to undergoe and it's beginning to affect my life in ways I've only, dreadfully, imagined. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, in fact our anniversary is this week. My bf is kind, intelligent, self sacrificing, happy, caring, supportive and all around a wonderful person that I had been madly in love with for the last two years of our relationship. And then something happened. I'm not even sure what it was, but suddenly it seemed I felt nothing. Nothing towards him, I didn't feel 'love' I can't even remember what that feels like in the present moment. I've been feeling awful, just terrible for feeling this way about him seeing as he is such a sweet guy who's madley in love with me. We've talked about our futur together and it all seemed so perfect to me before, we have many, many things in common. He's my best friend but ontop of feeling nothing for him, I'm also feeling no attraction whatso ever. My interest in sex has gone out the window, I feel disgusted with everything and everyone. I don't find myself attractive, I don't find him attractive. Nothing. I just feel like nothing and it's the worst feeling in the world. I cry myself to sleep every night.
 
I've been considering breaking up with him lately but it's killing me to even think it knowing how good of a match we were (and hopefully still are!) and how much I know deep down behind the pain I love him very much. I'm terrified this will end in us breaking up, is this all my anxiety and depression talking??? Any advice is appreciated. 
 
SIDE NOTE: I have been going to therapy and I'm on meds but nothing seems to be working. I eat very well and exercise 3 times a week with short walks in between days.

Post Edited (jazz92) : 6/17/2011 10:50:29 AM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 6/17/2011 11:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there and welcome to the depression forum.

I would see a counselor before you make any decisions to leave him. Your feelings could change once you start to feel better about yourself. A counselor would guide you through this and help find your true feelings. Don't throw in the towel so quickly.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
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Precious Gem
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   Posted 6/17/2011 12:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Ditto.  When I am having problems such as yourself, I want to get away from everyone I love forever, I think, but truly that is not what I want.  Work hard to get yourself in a good place before making any decisions that
you may later really regret.
 
Besides counseling and med if needed, make sure you take really good care of you.  Good diet, try to limit or stop caffeine use and exercise or do something physically active atleast 3 days a week.  If youare a drinkr I urge you to stop now, that brings on a whole set of misery especially when you are doing it to relieve anxiety.
 
Best of luck to you, take it slow, work on you, then work on you "two"
 
Gem

luckyflowers
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   Posted 6/17/2011 11:34 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree with the others! Don't do anything you could regret at this point right now. But I have been in your shoes. It was like one day I woke up and I just didn't even like my boyfriend. It really freaked me out.

I couldn't believe that out of no where I just didn't even care. I did take some time alone and for me, it was the right thing and they were my true feelings. This guy was causing too much stress in my life, and it was time to move on. Yes, he was a great guy, but not for me.

Good luck, and whatever you choose to do, it has to be for YOU.
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